I have noticed several times over the last couple of years that I will respond lovingly to a person who is being unloving, mean, or disrespectful. However, I don't realized until later that the person was intending to be mean.
First, I think I should have said this or that in retort instead of that kindness!
Second, I think Why do I want to have responded unlovingly? I am moving in Love automatically. That's what I want.
It is an illustration of how a lifetime of unloving habits is a tool used by the ego to preserve itself.