12-16-2012, 07:11 AM
I just had an interesting insight into Shame this evening.
Shame seems to operate primarily on the function of comparing; comparing oneself to others, or an idealised version of the self. It is usually yellow-ray related; as the sphere of comparison comes into play at work, or at school, or in some social setting. One 'compares' oneself (it is usually a practice learnt from outside, and then internalised), and then finds oneself wanting in some characteristic or another. It could be anything. Shame just looks for a weakness or deficit in the self compared to others.
Shame tends to have had a more welcoming home in Asian cultures; as opposed to guilt, which is usually more western-oriented; but these are gross generalisations, and may not hold as readily given our global culture these days.
The balancing of Shame seems to involve a recognition of the UNIQUENESS of the self, and hence no comparisons to others need be made at all. It fact, when this acknowledgement is internalised, there is a seeing that comparisons with Others are totally invalid; as each is approaching life with a unique history, a unique set of skills, and a unique life plan. Comparisons are invidious, and ultimately dividing.
that is not to say we cannot use feedback; but comparing one to another is like comparing earth to pluto; there is no need to do it whatsoever.
Shame seems to operate primarily on the function of comparing; comparing oneself to others, or an idealised version of the self. It is usually yellow-ray related; as the sphere of comparison comes into play at work, or at school, or in some social setting. One 'compares' oneself (it is usually a practice learnt from outside, and then internalised), and then finds oneself wanting in some characteristic or another. It could be anything. Shame just looks for a weakness or deficit in the self compared to others.
Shame tends to have had a more welcoming home in Asian cultures; as opposed to guilt, which is usually more western-oriented; but these are gross generalisations, and may not hold as readily given our global culture these days.
The balancing of Shame seems to involve a recognition of the UNIQUENESS of the self, and hence no comparisons to others need be made at all. It fact, when this acknowledgement is internalised, there is a seeing that comparisons with Others are totally invalid; as each is approaching life with a unique history, a unique set of skills, and a unique life plan. Comparisons are invidious, and ultimately dividing.
that is not to say we cannot use feedback; but comparing one to another is like comparing earth to pluto; there is no need to do it whatsoever.
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