No sympathy, Michael, as you wish, but I hope some compassion is ok! 
I do feel compassion for you and the difficult situation you are in!
Unfortunately, fathers don't have legal rights in these situations.
My first suggestion is: Have you fully expressed to this woman everything you just said here? Does she know the depth of your your yearning for this child and your commitment to raise the child?
It may be that she doesn't fully grasp that you're serious about this. Maybe she is concerned about the child's welfare. It's very rare for the man to want the baby; maybe she isn't taking you seriously.
It's important to realize that no woman ever wants an abortion. Most women 'choose' abortion because they feel they have no choice. They are desperate. This woman might not want the baby, but I can guarantee you she doesn't want to kill it either. She likely believes she is dong the 'right' thing and doesn't want to bring a child into this world whose parents aren't ready to care for him/her.
So, your task is to prove to her that you can provide for this child without her. You've already told her that you won't require anything from her after the birth, but you'll need to take it a step further, if you hope to convince her.
Here is my suggestion: Ask her to give you just a few days to prove to her that you are serious about raising this child. Present to her a very clear, detailed plan. How will you pay for the birth? What if there are complications? Does she have health insurance? If not, are you prepared to pay for medical care? Who will care for the baby when you are at work? Do you have the resources to make a lifelong commitment to this child? What sort of life will the child have?
Ask her for 3 days to get all this data ready to present to her. Tell her that you understand the final decision is up to her, but would she please just give you a chance to show her your plan.
This will also allow you to really get clear on an action plan, which you will surely need.
Also, contact Feminists for Life:
http://feministsforlife.org/
They specialize in this sort of thing. They aren't religious so they won't guilt-trip either of you, as religious 'pro-life' groups often do. They won't try to pressure you. And they certainly won't try to convert you. What they will do is offer options.
Regardless of what she decides, you will find support and resources at FFL. I highly suggest you contact them immediately! Explain the situation and see what they suggest.
If, after your best efforts, she goes through with the abortion, then do a meditation and contact the entity. Tell him/her that it didn't work out this time, but you will be ready next time. The entity may indeed come back to you, when circumstances are more favorable!
Blessings to you!
I do feel compassion for you and the difficult situation you are in! Unfortunately, fathers don't have legal rights in these situations.
My first suggestion is: Have you fully expressed to this woman everything you just said here? Does she know the depth of your your yearning for this child and your commitment to raise the child?
It may be that she doesn't fully grasp that you're serious about this. Maybe she is concerned about the child's welfare. It's very rare for the man to want the baby; maybe she isn't taking you seriously.
It's important to realize that no woman ever wants an abortion. Most women 'choose' abortion because they feel they have no choice. They are desperate. This woman might not want the baby, but I can guarantee you she doesn't want to kill it either. She likely believes she is dong the 'right' thing and doesn't want to bring a child into this world whose parents aren't ready to care for him/her.
So, your task is to prove to her that you can provide for this child without her. You've already told her that you won't require anything from her after the birth, but you'll need to take it a step further, if you hope to convince her.
Here is my suggestion: Ask her to give you just a few days to prove to her that you are serious about raising this child. Present to her a very clear, detailed plan. How will you pay for the birth? What if there are complications? Does she have health insurance? If not, are you prepared to pay for medical care? Who will care for the baby when you are at work? Do you have the resources to make a lifelong commitment to this child? What sort of life will the child have?
Ask her for 3 days to get all this data ready to present to her. Tell her that you understand the final decision is up to her, but would she please just give you a chance to show her your plan.
This will also allow you to really get clear on an action plan, which you will surely need.
Also, contact Feminists for Life:
http://feministsforlife.org/
They specialize in this sort of thing. They aren't religious so they won't guilt-trip either of you, as religious 'pro-life' groups often do. They won't try to pressure you. And they certainly won't try to convert you. What they will do is offer options.
Regardless of what she decides, you will find support and resources at FFL. I highly suggest you contact them immediately! Explain the situation and see what they suggest.
If, after your best efforts, she goes through with the abortion, then do a meditation and contact the entity. Tell him/her that it didn't work out this time, but you will be ready next time. The entity may indeed come back to you, when circumstances are more favorable!
Blessings to you!
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