Different Kinds of Love

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What is the deciding factor that distinguishes these apparently different forms of love?

Free will.

As the result of veiling it is possible to ignore the green ray activation completely, from this point until mid 6D. This is the choice we are here to make in 3D. If you do choose to activate it, the "true love", the unconditional one, the universal is the goal.

So, in regards to the romantic relationships, I thought of a quote where Ra said that the harvest of previous experiences in increasing polarization is not an indiscriminate mating, but a mated relationship:

The harvest from the previous creation was that which included the male and female mind/body/spirit. It was the intention of the original Logoi that entities mate with one another in any fashion which caused a greater polarization. It was determined, after observation of the process of many Logoi, that polarization increased many fold if the mating were not indiscriminate. Consequent Logoi thusly preserved a bias towards the mated relationship which is more characteristic of more disciplined personalities and of what you may call higher densities. The free will of each entity, however, was always paramount and a bias only could be offered.

It is only a bias though. Ra also said this:

The first is the extreme potential for polarization in the relationship of two polarized entities which have embarked upon the service-to-others path or, in some few cases, the service-to-self path. Secondly, we would note that effect which we have learned to call the doubling effect. Those of like mind which together seek shall far more surely find.

And that the original desire of beings is to become one:

The original desire is that entities seek and become one. If entities can do this in a moment, they may go forward in a moment, and, thus, were this to occur in a major cycle, indeed, the third-density planet would be vacated at the end of that cycle.

So my belief is that yes, even though this planet might be distorted and have a difficult harvest, entities here are still seek to become one. Those entities who seek positive polarization, seek perhaps that "true love", that unconditional and universal love, which is the goal of that polarization, and they might also sometimes perceive this bias towards a mated relationship. In order to not enter an indiscriminate mating, some entities might sometimes "test" a partner, to see if it is the one they want to embark on that journey with. I was specifically thinking about what you said here: "I have in multiple situations made girls very upset because they believe I do not love them because I do not perform the actions that they believe indicates my 'deeper' love for them." To my memory Ra didn't mention this, but Q'uo did, and that is that males are more prone to that indiscriminate mating, while females tend to respond to that in their own way(Q'uo on "pigs" and "b******").

What I guess it is all about is about choosing a mate, one mate. And I believe if both have a desire to work through their issues in three lower rays, and approach each other, evaluating each experience, seeking the jewel (Ra, 84.20), then indeed, a lot of work can be done much faster, and that unconditional, universal love be found.