I have found a transition in this area. When I was younger I would act out this reciprocity in a physical way. I would punch back if hit, I would return insults if insulted, often with even more venom, fighting the fire with fire. Later I managed to interalize this process without physical or verbal retaliation. The thoughts were still there, the insults etc. but I was able to supress the requirement to actually act out this 'revenge'. This then made it possible to view these otherselves as aspects of my own being and the balancing could take place.
I'm still going through this process but at another level that involves the people closest to me. Also the body sensations of this type of interaction have become better indicators as the awareness of the energy centers has grown.
Those closest to me in this life experience are actually the ones that cause the greatest feeling of separation or as zen put it 'lack of balance'. I guess this is why we programmed it this way, for maximum growth potential.
One particular member of my family makes it very difficult for me to 'love him' in an unconditional way.
He tends to personify everything that I 'hated', he most probably feels the same about me.
I really have to search for the compassion to do this as we are very different beings whilst at the same time knowing that 'all are one'.
This had enabled me to gain a better understanding of 'energy vampires' and what makes them tick, trying to go well beyond the usual limitations of 'good' and 'bad'. We both obviously think that we are 'doing the right thing' in respect of our actions and words.
This for me personally is the 'end game' scenario of Polarity Integration - seeing relationships with true wisdom and understanding the folly that over compassion often entails.
I'm still going through this process but at another level that involves the people closest to me. Also the body sensations of this type of interaction have become better indicators as the awareness of the energy centers has grown.
Those closest to me in this life experience are actually the ones that cause the greatest feeling of separation or as zen put it 'lack of balance'. I guess this is why we programmed it this way, for maximum growth potential.
One particular member of my family makes it very difficult for me to 'love him' in an unconditional way.
He tends to personify everything that I 'hated', he most probably feels the same about me.
I really have to search for the compassion to do this as we are very different beings whilst at the same time knowing that 'all are one'.
This had enabled me to gain a better understanding of 'energy vampires' and what makes them tick, trying to go well beyond the usual limitations of 'good' and 'bad'. We both obviously think that we are 'doing the right thing' in respect of our actions and words.
This for me personally is the 'end game' scenario of Polarity Integration - seeing relationships with true wisdom and understanding the folly that over compassion often entails.