Sexual addiction! and Male-Female energy roles/energies

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What helped me when I was in that situation was to ponder why I was blocking the receiving of love. In my case, I realized that I didn't really love myself. How could I receive love fully when I didn't love myself?

Interestingly, when I realized that and made progress in that area, guess what! miraculously, my mate seemed to have a corresponding breakthru as well. Was that mere coincidence? I don't think so! Our energies fed each other and mirrored each other. Likewise, whenever he had a breakthru of some sort, it triggered a corresponding response in me.

What I should reveal is that our relationship, in a larger sense, has evolved in many ways since we've been together (going on 6 years now). In our first two years together, we worked through some huge blockages---I could barely even have sex with him---everything felt shameful, dirty and guilt-ridden. Luckily, we got over this hurdle, but back then we could barely make love without me being brought to tears (and not in a positive way). We have positively had breakthroughs and I suppose that it is always, as you mentioned, a process.

So, I would suggest that you not fret about whether your partner is reciprocating in the way that you would like, and just focus on being fully in the moment, and just LOVE him, while loving yourself and opening yourself to RECEIVING love as well...and let the magick unfold! It will! The important thing is that you have commitment to each other...the rest will naturally develop as each of you evolves, and you can help each other, not just in the bedroom, but in your everyday interactions. Just being there for each other, loving each other, accepting each other, while nurturing and loving yourselves, will translate into greater energy exchange in the bedroom.

That makes so much sense, Monica. I have to admit that I've been going through a more intense period of self-discovery since the year began. I've been strengthening myself and actually learning to love myself more. This has really been the biggest blockage that I've been going through for many years; I continue to work through this every day.

Here's another suggestion: you might consider throwing caution to the winds and surrender yourself to joyful abandon...try doing it every day for awhile and see what happens! Without any judgement or expectation on the 'quality' of the experience, just be there in the moment, and accept it for what it is...you just might be surprised! And he might be so appreciative that his heart chakra might just open!

Sounds like fun! I'll give it a try.

[Edited]: Perhaps you may want to consider a non-sexual activity where his heart is completely open in. For example: If he likes Horse Riding then buy two rides for him and go together. His heart will be open and excited and you will get your emotional fulfillment being with him when he is so open and happy. It is a win win and a recipe for a great sex later on

This is an interesting suggestion! He's passionate about cycling and nature/hiking. I've noticed that when we've done this two activities together in the past, it has always brought us closer.

Still, my best advice is to focus on the love you share, do fun things together, share your feelings and learn to honor and respect eachother in all ways. Work on the love relationship rather than the sex relationship. I believe that if you tend the garden of your love well, that the sexual flowers within it will bloom in their own good time.

Thank you Pablísimo! That resonates for me very much---to work on the love relationship. Work has definitely changed the dynamic of our relationship immensely for about six months now. Our schedules are very different and it has been a struggle to continue to nurture love beyond the blooming sexual flowers.

love and light,
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