Good deeds and politeness will not polarize you alone.

[Adonai One]

I simply hold that a true expression of love comes with no expectation as one genuinely kisses another. Gifts and service of true compassion come with a core desire to fulfill the desires of another. Else it approachs a level of compassion comparable to what a average man feels towards a prostitute.

In the end, actions and service only act as unveilers of portions of infinity that we can either resist or unite with. This is termed catalyst. Catalyst simply gives us the opportunity to unite with what we hadn't fully united with previously. The key part is uniting, loving.