Good deeds and politeness will not polarize you alone.

[Aloysius]

Those entities which do not do their homework, be they ever so amiable, shall not cross.

I remember reading this for the first time and really hoping that this sentence was due to the questioners distortions, Don looks liked he was a really hard working fellow lol.

But enough apathy

In summary, feigning kindness will not get you anywhere. Feigning harmony and peace with all around you--while inside you're suffering and sacrificing--will not polarize you

I'm just gonna take a wild stab in the dark here and assume you're talking about polarizing positively

We are mind/body/spirit complexes, not just bodies capable of producing physical acts. Action arises from motivation and intent. "Service" involves our mind, body and spirit, it's not physical action alone (and some would argue not at all) that makes one polarize.

Even if people do have ulterior motives, that's probably their choice and my advice on polarizing would be to respect and love them and their choices that shape them.

Also, while we hold so much importance on polarization (and to a more societal context; being a 'good person') of course there's going to be people that try to put on a mask so they don't have to acknowledge darkness within themselves and to fit in to a perceived socially (or galactic) approved role to feel adequate in the eyes of others, rather than out of a deep seated love for all things lol.
Not really much I find that I can do about it but accept it as perfection, and ironically that seems to be a polarizing factor

I don't think that there is really a single action or key to polarizing positively but when people perceive one they put importance on it. Whether it be "feeding the homeless" or "understanding your fellow man" that creates a distinction of importance between one thing and another, which is not a quality of unconditional love.

But yeah I do agree, politeness is often empty but there are people who do it out of understanding, love and heaps of great things. Allowing love to flow out of one's actions is a sign of an open green ray, whatever the action may be. Intent and motivation for the actions I would say is probably more of a factor than the action itself, I think we in a agreement on that

Edit: clarity