A question concerning the negative polarity

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I believe that, whatever your intentions are, judging other-selves is not part of the positive path.

It certainly is part of it. What I find that most don't realize, and I know because I was the same way for years, is that once a certain level of development is achieved, when spiritual types look outward they seem to forget who they once were. And instead of seeing themselves, they see plenty of opportunity where people, their opinions, and mistakes need to be managed in what feels like a genuine effort to help. It seems to be self-serving though, in the sense that the catalyst must be controlled ("put power in a more correct configuration"). So guidance can be masked judgment. I think balance entails letting others be themselves, own their thoughts, and gently guide should they seem to be asking for it.

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It seems to me that we all nurture a very generous capacity for self deception, whereby we tell ourselves that our motivation is one thing when, underneath, it's quite clearly something else.

Yes, I think this goes back to the idea of controlling catalyst. At times we think we're genuinely offering help, but really, it's all about aligning others with our thoughts (correct power configuration). I can't find the quote, but I believe it's said negatives dominate through thought.

I went through a process with another where I felt they were continually making mistakes. I had a lot of compassion for this person, so I would react with all sorts of frustrated advice. It wasn't until I realized that there were mirrors being offered (as always) within the other, and when I had the necessary insights, things happened in their life for the better. If you can't see your mirror, you can't offer a co-creative energy. So yes, we certainly deceive ourselves.