Generally dis-satisfied with this illusion.

[GentleReckoning]

I found that if presented with alot of 'slow' interactions where people take forever to explain something, it isn't per se uncomfortable or dissatisfying. It's what you have (or I have) made of it rather than what it really is.
Some people simply are so different that their train of thought or explanations are simply roundabout or more based on creating a setting to experience the information instead of going to the simple core.

Learning to give people the time they need to present their thoughts/ideas for these things will make interactions with people feel more giving and likely the other person will feel less stressed out by the interaction as well.

Since you've been experiencing this for a very long time, maybe there is a lesson still unlearned about patience and/or resting in the moment?

That's true, but a lot of people feel that they are being validated as a human being when someone is being dishonest with them and pretending to be interested as they prattle on endlessly. I've begun calling it preaching. People love to think that they are converting someone to their ideas when in actuality they are letting someone else validate them. As you feel worse, they feel better. I've done this with tanner and an getting better at applying it to correct situations.

I simply say: "you're not engaging me as you haven't included me into your conversation at all. May I have a moment to present my perspective? "