Projected Empaths, and Real Empaths

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There are therapists who have been trained in empathy (to have deep understanding of the other's experience, both cognitively and emotionally). Might have natural aptitude for this level of deep understanding of others. They tend to be excellent listeners who are able to pick up very subtle cues, who are highly psychologically minded (understand human psychology e.g., human needs), done their own emotional work, etc. A person that uses high level of empathy will be able to express the other's words and to express the other's emotional experiences in an accurate way. By doing so, it somehow nudges the other to go deeper and be more authentic about what is really happening inside. For example, a person is angry and you reflect the deeper meaning and emotional experience that they are trying to relay to you but not overtly saying (bc not so conscious of their authentic feelings yet)... the angry person will most likely cry and shift their focus on more painful things than being angry at something. It's a skill bc if you tell people things they are not ready to hear, other could shut person down (it's too much for them) or other will deny/become defensive about it. So empaths are expert at timing and very skilled at assessing the other person's needs. It's an art-form.

Empaths can hear what's not been said yet. They can intuitively and rationally sense what the shadow is about. They are aware of erroneous projection and also able to set aside their own stuff to really listen/tune into others.

They don't say what the other wants to hear... they can deepen the experience towards more authenticity and self-acceptance bc they tend to be accepting and honest w/ themselves too. This is my own observation of empathy.