02-07-2014, 12:42 PM
One personal note concerning the topic of acceptance and the interaction of people on a forum:
I've had trouble accepting how people interact on forums. Not this forum so much as other, more traditional internet forums. It took some time and some sinking in for me to realize that's its acceptable regardless of how people interact on a forum.
I've noticed that when I had an expectation that any given forum must become more balanced in its interaction, is when I thrust my personal distortions of lacking acceptance and when I become frustrated.
I can hope for and open a door for what I would consider more balanced forum interaction, but in the end I'm totally ok with the present and I accept the present. Everything on all internet forums is completely, without a doubt, acceptable, warts (imagined or real), and all. Trolls, flaming, hating, judging, it's all good. In the end, there are parts of me that resonate maybe .01% with that, right? And I accept that. It no longer evokes the strong emotional reaction it did (for most part). I had to dig deep into why people interacting in these ways upset me so much, and I realized it was a lack of acceptance of other's distortions, and an expectation that they balance themselves, especially once it was pointed out to them. This was a beautiful lesson for me because it was also my internal reality - I would get frustrated at myself when I wouldn't properly and quickly learn the balanced lesson for a given self-personal catalyst. It was almost like not accepting myself, and others, for their lack of progress in processing distortion, especially the more seemingly 'hurtful' distortions.
These days, I don't view things through that lense, and these days are definitely f'ing awesome. But it's not because I told myself to just accept it over and over again. I dug deep and I found ways to understand why it's hard to get the right balance immediately; I found ways to understand why someone would be hateful or spiteful; I found ways to understand why one would want to remain sleeping or why one would want to ignore conscious evolution of their beliefs. We were all there once, and in a certain sense, a part of us is always there. In short, it's all good man.
If you are super-bored just search the dominions 4 desura forum for elitesix and you will see the fireworks lol
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I've had trouble accepting how people interact on forums. Not this forum so much as other, more traditional internet forums. It took some time and some sinking in for me to realize that's its acceptable regardless of how people interact on a forum.
I've noticed that when I had an expectation that any given forum must become more balanced in its interaction, is when I thrust my personal distortions of lacking acceptance and when I become frustrated.
I can hope for and open a door for what I would consider more balanced forum interaction, but in the end I'm totally ok with the present and I accept the present. Everything on all internet forums is completely, without a doubt, acceptable, warts (imagined or real), and all. Trolls, flaming, hating, judging, it's all good. In the end, there are parts of me that resonate maybe .01% with that, right? And I accept that. It no longer evokes the strong emotional reaction it did (for most part). I had to dig deep into why people interacting in these ways upset me so much, and I realized it was a lack of acceptance of other's distortions, and an expectation that they balance themselves, especially once it was pointed out to them. This was a beautiful lesson for me because it was also my internal reality - I would get frustrated at myself when I wouldn't properly and quickly learn the balanced lesson for a given self-personal catalyst. It was almost like not accepting myself, and others, for their lack of progress in processing distortion, especially the more seemingly 'hurtful' distortions.
These days, I don't view things through that lense, and these days are definitely f'ing awesome. But it's not because I told myself to just accept it over and over again. I dug deep and I found ways to understand why it's hard to get the right balance immediately; I found ways to understand why someone would be hateful or spiteful; I found ways to understand why one would want to remain sleeping or why one would want to ignore conscious evolution of their beliefs. We were all there once, and in a certain sense, a part of us is always there. In short, it's all good man.
If you are super-bored just search the dominions 4 desura forum for elitesix and you will see the fireworks lol
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