03-26-2014, 05:55 PM
What is 'all is well' mean then. That's along the lines of faith but faith is not higher self stuff, it's inherent in all things in 3D.
There's a lot of unconscious stuffs that gets thrown around in relationships, such as psychological attachment, which is kind of what analysts call 'complexes' - organizing principles of how you believe, think, feel, and behave. You used the word 'fault'. Fault is one of those concepts that can escalate situations and not really resolve conflict - and this is more than semantics. The attitude of pinning responsibility or wrong-ness can just lead to more conflict for adult relationships e.g., people get defensive or they feel hurt. So framing fault onto action that leads to distrust can create more distrust. Ideally everyone shares some responsibility in more neutral ways e.g., understanding how things went the way they went, how people became to do what they do (lie or cheat or whatnot). That's kind of the basic opening to acceptance/forgiveness. Most times it will lead to person's experiences while growing up and being in certain types of relationships like parent-child, peer friendships, and intimate relationships. Especially critical events in someone's life that lead person to believe something about others selves and own self.
This little template around relationships is unconscious so it helps to bring out those things, you know. One can forgive or think one is forgiving others while something still nags you bc it's like near the surface of consciousness but you can't pin point why it bothers you... Those things get magnified in relationships so that kind of means relationships are a great way to know self more.
There's a lot of unconscious stuffs that gets thrown around in relationships, such as psychological attachment, which is kind of what analysts call 'complexes' - organizing principles of how you believe, think, feel, and behave. You used the word 'fault'. Fault is one of those concepts that can escalate situations and not really resolve conflict - and this is more than semantics. The attitude of pinning responsibility or wrong-ness can just lead to more conflict for adult relationships e.g., people get defensive or they feel hurt. So framing fault onto action that leads to distrust can create more distrust. Ideally everyone shares some responsibility in more neutral ways e.g., understanding how things went the way they went, how people became to do what they do (lie or cheat or whatnot). That's kind of the basic opening to acceptance/forgiveness. Most times it will lead to person's experiences while growing up and being in certain types of relationships like parent-child, peer friendships, and intimate relationships. Especially critical events in someone's life that lead person to believe something about others selves and own self.
This little template around relationships is unconscious so it helps to bring out those things, you know. One can forgive or think one is forgiving others while something still nags you bc it's like near the surface of consciousness but you can't pin point why it bothers you... Those things get magnified in relationships so that kind of means relationships are a great way to know self more.
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