what is your relationship with your parents like?

[xise]

I wanted to help my mom when she told me how controlling and abusive my step dad was. She was so close to leaving him and then she decided to stay with him. At that point I realized that she wants her suffering and I can't help her into a better life, because she desires the life she has.

Cycles of domestic violence respond well to addiction therapy. Both the abuser and victim are addicted to the cycle of reconciliation-abuse. Just like drug abuse, people only really change once they've hit rock bottom, and sometimes rock bottom is pretty hard to hit.