Seeking advice

[Hotsizzle77]

Hi friends

For 8 months my cousin has been living with me and after a lot of emotional ups and downs I finally told him it's time for him to find some other place to live. I have given him over a month. Long story short - he makes me feel uncomfortable in my home because of his constant negative attitude and dishonesty.

I'm having difficulty balancing because of this and am wondering if any of you can offer me advice. He is a year older than me, but he is either unwilling or unable to make a life and home for himself. I live in a big house with my other half. There's plenty of room for three. I feel that making him leave would be selfish because his room will just sit vacant.

Every friend and family member I discuss this with says this is more than overdue, but none of them see the world quite as I do (that's where you guys come in ). Why do you suppose I am putting so much of my concentration on the possibility of spiritual consequences about making the "wrong" choice here?

Hey Mike, I'm sorry you're going through this kind of trouble, and your certainly not a lone.

It was a very good thing you allowing him into your home. You have set expectations (such as monthly bills that he will pay) which is also a good thing because it reflects the respect for yourself.

I agree with Melissa, discussing the topic will always make you feel better. It would literally cleanse out your throat chakra. We have a tendency to keep what is bothering us a secret to everyone but ourselves. We all do.

It's very hard thing loving and caring for someone and having to put yourself first. but at the same time you have to respect yourself and stand your ground. Tell him how important it is he pays the bills and respects your household.

As far as the negativity goes, send him love, but at the same time don't allow his negativity to inflict with your life.

Most importantly do what you think is right. Despite what everyone thinks, cause in the end you're gonna have to live with the decision. Want to give him more time? An extra chance ? Go ahead. Deep down it's all you brother