05-12-2014, 04:54 PM
It is possible that this psychologist was attempting to understand your experience but it did not work out between you two.
People who are more comfortable with thinking or being rational may have a difficult time expressing their emotions. If a person is using emotions as way to understand & discover self but having challenges describing emotional experience, typically we start with learning the vocabulary of emotions (mad, sad, etc). If something is difficult to describe it could also mean that the catalyst is very emotionally charging that it's difficult to make sense of it - thus sometimes we clam up or we talk about things that we are comfy w/.
The point of processing information is that we become very proximal to the emotional experience and able to work with it. If we cut-off emotions and opt for rational or philosophical discussions, we are essentially using our defense mechanisms to keep emotions more distal (further away from us). If one were to work with emotions then we would need to become proximal to it - meaning willing to re-experience certain emotions in the moment as Plenum suggested.
Not to say rational sounding people don't experience emotions. They have better control over their emotions that allows them to choose to intellectualize their emotions than to get in touch with emotions.
People who are more comfortable with thinking or being rational may have a difficult time expressing their emotions. If a person is using emotions as way to understand & discover self but having challenges describing emotional experience, typically we start with learning the vocabulary of emotions (mad, sad, etc). If something is difficult to describe it could also mean that the catalyst is very emotionally charging that it's difficult to make sense of it - thus sometimes we clam up or we talk about things that we are comfy w/.
The point of processing information is that we become very proximal to the emotional experience and able to work with it. If we cut-off emotions and opt for rational or philosophical discussions, we are essentially using our defense mechanisms to keep emotions more distal (further away from us). If one were to work with emotions then we would need to become proximal to it - meaning willing to re-experience certain emotions in the moment as Plenum suggested.
Not to say rational sounding people don't experience emotions. They have better control over their emotions that allows them to choose to intellectualize their emotions than to get in touch with emotions.
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