My opinions carry less emotional charge than before

[APeacefulWarrior]

From my understanding of the LOO, emotions and desires are to be understood and accepted as part of self. When they are understood, if they are not consonant with you they will simply fade on their own.

This has been my experience as well. Fighting against an emotion or attribute of oneself only reinforces that attribute. Especially if someone is trying to rid themselves of negative thoughts. Since non-acceptance / non-love is a somewhat negative stance to begin with, it's fighting fire with fire, so to speak. And that rarely works.

For me, it's largely about self-understanding. I think most activities a person engages in are ultimately driven by more fundamental desires/goals. If one understands the fundamental goal (or expression of will) then they can see how it relates to the activities they don't wish to engage in. Once they see this relationship, they can then choose - willfully - to seek a different way of accomplishing that goal. So, the old behavior falls away, and a better/preferred/optimized behavior can take its place.

But if someone simply rejects/denies/unloves a behavior, they cannot uncover the fundamental reasons for that behavior. Only by embracing it as part of themselves can they understand the motivations for the behavior and then seek to alter it.