Secret Hatreds

[Plenum]

I hate someone & I want to delete them from my life entirely & unfortunately the only way for me to do that is to leave b4.

I can't reply to specifics,  but maybe one last thing you could try is this:

Reversing the Projection

1. get a blank sheet of paper
2. start making a list
3. at the top of the list write: "I hate (insert person's name) because they ..."
4. start filling in the list with everything you hate about them
5. look at the list and be proud of it

Unfortunately, step 6 is not something most people want to hear.

if you don't want to know it, please close this browser screen *immediately*.

I also recommend you make the list before seeing step 6.
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<secret reveal coming>

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<secret reveal soon ....>

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<Plenum is a tease ...>


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<ok, the reveal ...>

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step 6.  at the top of the list where it says: "I hate (insert person's name) because they ..."

cross out the (person's name), and insert "myself".  Cross out 'they', and insert 'I'.

The top of the column should now read: "I hate myself because I ..."

step 7.  If you are truly honest, you'll see that you only hate the other person because there is something unforgiven in yourself that you can't own up to or acknowledge.  That's why it's being projected onto the other person.

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this sounds like it can't possibly work or be true.  But I've applied this technique (and it's validated in many psychological circles), and it's the Ultimate technique to dealing with irritation and anger and upsets at other people.  It doesn't work for everything, but it works particularly well when the other person has become an object of Hatred.