09-30-2010, 01:22 AM
Lavazza, I am glad to learn about your experience.
My father was also a WWII vet. I suspect there was some kind of military honor for him at the military ceremony. As my family of origin prevented my knowing of any such ceremony, this is one of the unanswered questions of my life. From various hints I suspect his remains were cremated and a ceremonial casket was interred. I continue to believe that being allowed to know the details of this circumstance would help me complete frozen grieving, in turn bringing some healing into my life.
This is one of the situations for which my family of origin insisted, before all contact was cut off, that I am so outrageously hostile, indifferent, ungrateful, selfish, nasty, crazy, and immoral that it is impossible to tell me what I did wrong, or to provide any way I could make amends.
It is helpful for me to learn about how an intact family can help each other through such an experience. I continue to struggle on a daily basis as to why I have to learn about such opportunities second hand. Thank you for sharing your magical experience.
My father was also a WWII vet. I suspect there was some kind of military honor for him at the military ceremony. As my family of origin prevented my knowing of any such ceremony, this is one of the unanswered questions of my life. From various hints I suspect his remains were cremated and a ceremonial casket was interred. I continue to believe that being allowed to know the details of this circumstance would help me complete frozen grieving, in turn bringing some healing into my life.
This is one of the situations for which my family of origin insisted, before all contact was cut off, that I am so outrageously hostile, indifferent, ungrateful, selfish, nasty, crazy, and immoral that it is impossible to tell me what I did wrong, or to provide any way I could make amends.
It is helpful for me to learn about how an intact family can help each other through such an experience. I continue to struggle on a daily basis as to why I have to learn about such opportunities second hand. Thank you for sharing your magical experience.