04-06-2009, 02:37 PM
On the other hand. If someone breaks off a romantic relationship. Then there's a whole spectrum of responses. There is everything from deep anger that makes everything about that person detestable. There's forgiveness from a distance knowing that we all make mistakes but that some things cannot be fixed. But that we are capable of being okay without them. Theres even love for the good things that were, or a willingness to help each other out.
This basic thing happens in every relationship that ends, even in our relationships to all kinds of authority figures.
The negativity lies as much within the community as in the despised authorities. The so called powers that be. This is a phase. I was angry too, almost 20 years ago. Only later I realized that it's not the only way. Right now I'm at the point where I really feel for a Bernie Maddof whose multi-million dollar empire collapsed overnight. All his friends and social relationships had invested money in him which they now lost so all the kindness he ever received ended at the same night. And he's arrested and sent to prison for fraud where he goes from sleeping with his lovely wife in a super luxurious bedroom with roomservice and everything to sleeping in a 2 by 2 cell with a cell mate in a bunk bed.
Let me put it this way. I hope his cell mate is an enlightened being who is able to tell him that in spite of everything he is still worthy of love.
It's important to spread the message of forgiveness. Meditation, good works, prayer and compassion express themselves beyond our view it's a good counterbalance against the lynch mob mentality that is also present in our diversity.
It's normal to be in a lot of states when something like this happens. It's okay to be angry. It's not okay to convert the anger into a lynch mob.
This basic thing happens in every relationship that ends, even in our relationships to all kinds of authority figures.
The negativity lies as much within the community as in the despised authorities. The so called powers that be. This is a phase. I was angry too, almost 20 years ago. Only later I realized that it's not the only way. Right now I'm at the point where I really feel for a Bernie Maddof whose multi-million dollar empire collapsed overnight. All his friends and social relationships had invested money in him which they now lost so all the kindness he ever received ended at the same night. And he's arrested and sent to prison for fraud where he goes from sleeping with his lovely wife in a super luxurious bedroom with roomservice and everything to sleeping in a 2 by 2 cell with a cell mate in a bunk bed.
Let me put it this way. I hope his cell mate is an enlightened being who is able to tell him that in spite of everything he is still worthy of love.
It's important to spread the message of forgiveness. Meditation, good works, prayer and compassion express themselves beyond our view it's a good counterbalance against the lynch mob mentality that is also present in our diversity.
It's normal to be in a lot of states when something like this happens. It's okay to be angry. It's not okay to convert the anger into a lynch mob.