How may I begin to free myself from the constraints of the thoughts of other-selves?

[AnthroHeart]

It seems like the more pain you experience here, the more pleasurable you will find the afterlife to be.

You can have the joy in this life, Gem, no need to wait for the "afterlife".

Ra: Even the most unhappy of experiences, shall we say, which seem to occur in the Catalyst of the adept, seen from the viewpoint of the spirit, may, with the discrimination possible in shadow, be worked with until light equaling the light of brightest noon descends upon the adept and positive or service-to-others illumination has occurred.

I think the secret of that is to become one of your parallel selves. I wonder if it just takes imagination, and how you really do it.