How may I begin to free myself from the constraints of the thoughts of other-selves?

[rva_jeremy]

I think Jade has got great advice for you.  I just wanted to concur that there seems to be an orange-indigo connection with worthiness and self-esteem.  The immediate source for this assertion stems from this Q'uo reading.  I'll excerpt the relevant part here, but the entire thing is amazing:

We would say to the questioner that it is well to come into a relationship with the self in which there is no fear, no tension, no judgment, and no tendency towards discouragement. The days of an incarnation are very limited and it is well to win freedom from the judgment towards the self that compromises that relationship of self to self. This instrument has often described the desired result of such work as falling in love with the self. When you are in love with someone, they can do no wrong. They might make an error, but it is a small thing. The essence of that person is so appreciated and seen in such a strong and clear light that there are simply ways to love that entity based on their imperfections as well as their perfections.

It is easier for the thoughtful and sensitive seeker to love another with that kind of romantic glow than it is to love the self with that same aura of deep appreciation and respect and yet, dear one, you deserve it. You have earned it over and over. You are worthy.

When the orange ray is compromised by unworthiness, it reflects upon the indigo ray as well, for the indigo ray is the higher chakra in which the self is steeped in the devotion to the Creator that allows for work in consciousness and for the passage of passive radiation of light.

So you see, there are echoes and inner relationships betwixt the chakra bodies, chakra to chakra to chakra, that are very subtle and impinge upon the situation of how the body manifests unused catalyst.

(my emphasis)

The point here is that there is a connection between orange ray issues of self-to-self and indigo ray opening of the gateway, the activity that exemplifies the adept.  This, I suppose I'm saying, is a potential root of this connection between freeing oneself from others' opinions as a step on the path to adepthood.  This completely reinforces everything Jade is saying.

Secondly, there's a Laitos reading that deals intensively with low self worth issues centered on the orange ray.  It deals with humiliation which of course is a function of one's relation to others' thoughts:

It is our experience that in order to heal in this area [of humiliation], it is necessary to return to that feeling of lowness and to embrace it, to accept it, to love it, and to allow it to be a part of the self and its beingness that is indeed not separate from others, not separate from the one infinite Creator.

One therefore has the possibility of a kind of humility that has nothing to prove, nothing to overcome, nothing to establish in relation to others so that one can be worthy or bright or can demand respect, obedience or esteem.

In this experience of true humility there is a sense in which the self in its status as fledgling is sent into a proportional relation with the self that has already the crown upon its head. And so, quite properly speaking, there is a relation of self to self that may be registered in this first act of self-worth that is paradoxically given the name of humility.

I hope you find these as helpful as I do!