The service of giving attention to another self

[Glow]

Can I ask just to clarify the situation.
Do you ever need their attention? If so do they ever refuse you?

I'm trying to understand if this is you not liking to feel you have to be there for someone who isn't there for you or if you just generally resent anyone expecting you would be there for them when they need you. Like you feel controlled by the expectation that you would provide care even if someone does for you. Both valid experiences but totally different "nut".