11-02-2018, 05:47 AM
Sorry to hear that you're having such a difficult time. I'm not sure what I can offer to alleviate your suffering during this time, but I can give you my opinion.
I don't see any problem in asking for help, especially if it's for the bare necessities. Perhaps you're feeling guilty about asking for assistance because you believe others will be guilted into helping you when they don't really want to? Well, that's on them and not your responsibility. People are free to agree or refuse giving assistance.
Service to others doesn't preclude asking for help when it is sorely needed, you are offering those in your circle the opportunity to help a friend in need. Honestly there are people who find a lot of joy in giving a leg-up to another, we just have to use discernment when it is the right time. Some people will be in a position to help, others won't be, all to varying degrees, and that's all OK.
And money is just one form of service, perhaps you can think of ways to return the favour in ways that do not involve money, not because you have to, but just because you like to express your gratitude.
I don't see any problem in asking for help, especially if it's for the bare necessities. Perhaps you're feeling guilty about asking for assistance because you believe others will be guilted into helping you when they don't really want to? Well, that's on them and not your responsibility. People are free to agree or refuse giving assistance.
Service to others doesn't preclude asking for help when it is sorely needed, you are offering those in your circle the opportunity to help a friend in need. Honestly there are people who find a lot of joy in giving a leg-up to another, we just have to use discernment when it is the right time. Some people will be in a position to help, others won't be, all to varying degrees, and that's all OK.
And money is just one form of service, perhaps you can think of ways to return the favour in ways that do not involve money, not because you have to, but just because you like to express your gratitude.