Dilemma

[solitary]

Here's the story.

What is wrong with me?

There's nothing wrong with you. You want to help someone to not take a step that will most likely end in much sadness and pain to several people.

It's a dilemma that a lot of us face. So where does helping, or service, end, and intrusion/interference begin? If she was about to fall in front of a train or off a cliff, you could reach out and pull her back, or at least try, because that's a physical action and an instinct to most people. If she was about to have an accident, she'd thank you; if she was trying to commit suicide, she might be very angry. Hard to say.

You can write down your choices, like try to stay a friend but let her make her own mistakes, and keep quiet; have a small group try to intervene (not a very good idea, usually); detach and let things play out and move on in your own life; lots of things you could do and not do.

So much of this stuff is personality-specific, there's no way of being certain what particular vibration (words, feelings, actions) would resonate with her enough to help her see things differently in a positive way. Good luck.

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there's nothing wrong with you,

Sorry I took your words, didn't mean to. We pretty much agree, anyway, that there's nothing wrong with Blatz.