04-14-2011, 07:48 PM
It's funny, but as we've been talking about all this stuff a situation has popped up for me.
My husband and one of my friends have been tossing around the idea of having a threesome. My friend is in an open relationship with her boyfriend- they claim no ownership over each other- and she says he might even want to join in. As much as I promote the idea of free love, when presented with the opportunity I feel strange. We've all been very honest about it with each other...no secrets or tiptoeing around, and at this point I've had to just say "I don't know."
On one hand, I would love to be able to practice this principle of openness with my husband and a friend I cherish. On the other, I don't think I've ever heard of anyone having a threesome where it turned out well for everyone. It seems like there's always some sort of awkward complication and friendships get ruined over it. I honestly don't know what I think/feel about it right now. Neither of them are putting pressure on me to hurry up and decide, and both respect my feelings, so it's not like I feel like I have to go ahead and say yes just so they won't be mad.
What are opinions here on threesomes? I do hope this isn't coming off as vulgar...I'll admit I still feel a wee bit embarrassed talking openly amongst you guys about something so personal, even though I'm the one who started the thread.
My husband and one of my friends have been tossing around the idea of having a threesome. My friend is in an open relationship with her boyfriend- they claim no ownership over each other- and she says he might even want to join in. As much as I promote the idea of free love, when presented with the opportunity I feel strange. We've all been very honest about it with each other...no secrets or tiptoeing around, and at this point I've had to just say "I don't know."
On one hand, I would love to be able to practice this principle of openness with my husband and a friend I cherish. On the other, I don't think I've ever heard of anyone having a threesome where it turned out well for everyone. It seems like there's always some sort of awkward complication and friendships get ruined over it. I honestly don't know what I think/feel about it right now. Neither of them are putting pressure on me to hurry up and decide, and both respect my feelings, so it's not like I feel like I have to go ahead and say yes just so they won't be mad.
What are opinions here on threesomes? I do hope this isn't coming off as vulgar...I'll admit I still feel a wee bit embarrassed talking openly amongst you guys about something so personal, even though I'm the one who started the thread.