(04-14-2011, 10:11 PM)ahktu Wrote: I don't think it's so much jealousy as just the feeling that things might not be the same afterward. Like there would be this big awkward white elephant in the middle of the friendship after doing something like that.
That could be a clue!
(04-14-2011, 10:11 PM)ahktu Wrote: I mean, is it one of those things you do and then you're not supposed to speak of it afterward?
A friend once asked me how to know whether he has found his 'true love.' He was contemplating marriage but wasn't sure if he wanted to spend his life with this woman. I told him that when my husband and I decided to get married, we didn't need to ask anyone for their opinion. There was never any doubt in our minds! Furthermore, there was no way either of us could have tolerated being apart. We would have done whatever was necessary to be together.
Likewise, it seems to me that if the proposed threesome is spiritually and emotionally healthy for all involved, then there would be no need to seek opinions.
I'm in a monogamous marriage and have no interest in what you describe. The people I've known who have tried threesomes and open marriages all ended up in divorce. It's not my place to judge, and as a strong proponent of marriage as a sacred path, I admit I have a bias against such things. I'm just saying that's what I've observed. But it seems to me that, if all parties are open enough and balanced enough to participate in a sexual act that is, apparently, common in the higher densities but not commonly done here in 3D, then they wouldn't have to ask for any opinions.
If there is doubt, hence the asking of opinions, then I would advise against the action, because it seems to me that doubt indicates a red flag. If there is concern about whether to talk of the action afterwards, then that indicates the chakras aren't open, because if they were, then you'd be able to discuss it freely.
If you can't discuss such an intimate act freely with the person you did it with, then what does that say? It seems to me that says it occurred on the lower chakras only.
Which then leads to the question: What is to be gained? Is it a lower chakra exercise only? Is it worth potentially jeopardizing the closeness you now enjoy with your husband?
(04-15-2011, 06:00 PM)ahktu Wrote: It's looking like the opportunity has been put on hold indefinitely, anyway. Too many personal issues amongst all parties. Thanks for the opinions, guys. This is all really new to me.
I already posted my last comment, before I read this. So you might no longer be interested in my opinion, but I'll leave it anyway in case anyone else finds it of value.