05-22-2011, 08:08 AM
i was thinking today how important it is to both teach our children and to teach them with love and with patience. being a parent imo has been the most important thing that i have done on this planet. i always wanted to be able to see that our children would be able to take care of themselves and that goal has been accomplished. we have 4 children and 9 grandchildren.
one thing we instilled in them is that being a bully was absolutely unacceptable for us as parents. it simply was not tolerated in our household.
let me say one thing it is a lot easier to be a grandparent that it is to be a parent as u dont have the responsibility to raising them. as a grandparent i observe the necessity for patience in teaching the children. and firmness. there is nothing wrong with setting boundaries on their conduct it is an absolute necessity to do that. at the same time we have to understand that children are children, they are learning and we are their teachers . if they need to be told something 20 times in a loving manner so be it. or 100 or 1000 times. whatever it takes to get the message across. eventually one day that message will sink in. if children are raised with love eventually they will become that love that they were raised with.
we spend a lot of time with the grandchildren and i consider it an opportunity to share my values with them. i appreciate the great challenges of being a parent in this time frame. the internet and face book and cell phones and you tube have made it totally different no one is a perfect parent i know we certainly weren't. we did our best. but as i look back i dont regret the love that we invested in our childrent. they are each different but each one has to desire to help their fellow man . so the love that they received was not in vain and no love that is ever invested in any one is ever in vain.
norral
one thing we instilled in them is that being a bully was absolutely unacceptable for us as parents. it simply was not tolerated in our household.
let me say one thing it is a lot easier to be a grandparent that it is to be a parent as u dont have the responsibility to raising them. as a grandparent i observe the necessity for patience in teaching the children. and firmness. there is nothing wrong with setting boundaries on their conduct it is an absolute necessity to do that. at the same time we have to understand that children are children, they are learning and we are their teachers . if they need to be told something 20 times in a loving manner so be it. or 100 or 1000 times. whatever it takes to get the message across. eventually one day that message will sink in. if children are raised with love eventually they will become that love that they were raised with.
we spend a lot of time with the grandchildren and i consider it an opportunity to share my values with them. i appreciate the great challenges of being a parent in this time frame. the internet and face book and cell phones and you tube have made it totally different no one is a perfect parent i know we certainly weren't. we did our best. but as i look back i dont regret the love that we invested in our childrent. they are each different but each one has to desire to help their fellow man . so the love that they received was not in vain and no love that is ever invested in any one is ever in vain.
norral
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