Anytime anyone says or does anything there are others who are going to react in a seemingly "negative" way. They will disagree or push back. It doesn't mean either party is doing something wrong.
Tenet Nosce, I read all your posts here and went back and read some of the threads you linked to try and get a good idea of what you're going through.
My verdict: learn to accept the drama, the froth, the whipped-up-ness. It's okay to have drama.
You make perfectly reasonable and often very good posts, and then people disagree, and there are hurt feelings. This is ok. You aren't responsible for other people's feelings. Your own hurt feelings are also OK. Give yourself permission to be human.
Your responsibility is to be authentic and genuine and (from STO perspective) to do your best to help out. Maybe sometimes this means saying things that trigger people, that upset them. Maybe the upset is part of their process and is what they really needed.
You can't control how people react to your posts. All you can control is your sincerity and intention. You do your best to be fair, kind, and clear, and you answer people's questions as best as you can and explain yourself as best as you can. You don't have any maliciousness or hostility in your posts that I can detect, at all. But even if you did it would not be the end of the world, because that's the nature of being human. Nobody's perfect.
There's nothing wrong with drama. It's all a part of the process. All of the "negativity" you see has nothing to do with you and is just humans being human. Allow them to be human; accept them as they are and don't worry about it.
Accept those people as the emotional, upset, angry, imperfect humans they are.
Also it's very likely that whatever negativity you're seeing, you are reading into it too much. It's so easy to think that someone is angry over the internet when they are just trying to be use a clear tone, for instance.
Hell, in one thread on this forum people were calling me a racist genocidal social darwinist neo-nazi or something and it was a complete misunderstanding. But you know what I realized? It's not a big deal. "We're all bozos on this bus" and I know these people aren't seeing me accurately, so all I can do is laugh and try to tell them that they've got it wrong. But this isn't always possible. And that's okay too.
I think your lesson here is to accept the things you can't change while still having the courage to speak your truth.
I, for one, think you are a great poster who contributes invaluably. It is impossible to please everyone all the time. But your true goal in posting isn't to please people, is it? It's to express yourself and your opinion and your truth. Be comfortable with the knowledge that you've been doing this, and be comfortable with the fact that in the process of being yourself there are some people who are gonna be mad at you no matter what.
Tenet Nosce, I read all your posts here and went back and read some of the threads you linked to try and get a good idea of what you're going through.
My verdict: learn to accept the drama, the froth, the whipped-up-ness. It's okay to have drama.
You make perfectly reasonable and often very good posts, and then people disagree, and there are hurt feelings. This is ok. You aren't responsible for other people's feelings. Your own hurt feelings are also OK. Give yourself permission to be human.
Your responsibility is to be authentic and genuine and (from STO perspective) to do your best to help out. Maybe sometimes this means saying things that trigger people, that upset them. Maybe the upset is part of their process and is what they really needed.
You can't control how people react to your posts. All you can control is your sincerity and intention. You do your best to be fair, kind, and clear, and you answer people's questions as best as you can and explain yourself as best as you can. You don't have any maliciousness or hostility in your posts that I can detect, at all. But even if you did it would not be the end of the world, because that's the nature of being human. Nobody's perfect.
There's nothing wrong with drama. It's all a part of the process. All of the "negativity" you see has nothing to do with you and is just humans being human. Allow them to be human; accept them as they are and don't worry about it.
Accept those people as the emotional, upset, angry, imperfect humans they are.
Also it's very likely that whatever negativity you're seeing, you are reading into it too much. It's so easy to think that someone is angry over the internet when they are just trying to be use a clear tone, for instance.
Hell, in one thread on this forum people were calling me a racist genocidal social darwinist neo-nazi or something and it was a complete misunderstanding. But you know what I realized? It's not a big deal. "We're all bozos on this bus" and I know these people aren't seeing me accurately, so all I can do is laugh and try to tell them that they've got it wrong. But this isn't always possible. And that's okay too.
I think your lesson here is to accept the things you can't change while still having the courage to speak your truth.
I, for one, think you are a great poster who contributes invaluably. It is impossible to please everyone all the time. But your true goal in posting isn't to please people, is it? It's to express yourself and your opinion and your truth. Be comfortable with the knowledge that you've been doing this, and be comfortable with the fact that in the process of being yourself there are some people who are gonna be mad at you no matter what.
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