10-09-2009, 10:34 PM
Thanks for all your input and info.
fairyfarmgirl:
I never withhold energy. My energy is immediately and lovingly poured out to everything around me. My goal is not to improve my mind - that will happen on its own as I progress spiritually. My purpose in progressing spiritually is to make myself strong and aware enough to fulfill my purpose and serve those whom I am here to serve, not merely to better myself.
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Ali Qadir and akhtu:
We both do massage, and often incorporate it into our lovemaking. We find that the deep tissue stuff is much less painful during intercourse.
As for alternating my way/his way each session - that doesn't apply. We both do rhythmic breathing when approaching climax (his choice as well as mine), and then I simply don't climax, while he does. Those are the only aspects of my practice that are detectable by him. Other than that, we do that same types of things we used to, physically speaking.
One would think he'd appreciate being relieved of the burden of "performance anxiety", since he doesn't have to worry about my climax - but apparently that's not the case. It's also been argued by some that a female climax shows "proper appreciation" for what he's doing, and gives him a "reward" for all his hard work. This makes female orgasm sound like candy to be handed out to the "good boys" who manage to hit all the right buttons. Needless to say, I disagree with this viewpoint.
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3D Sunset:
Thanks for the post, but that's from something I've already read. While it informed me well me at the time I read it, didn't directly address the information I seek.
fairyfarmgirl:
I never withhold energy. My energy is immediately and lovingly poured out to everything around me. My goal is not to improve my mind - that will happen on its own as I progress spiritually. My purpose in progressing spiritually is to make myself strong and aware enough to fulfill my purpose and serve those whom I am here to serve, not merely to better myself.
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Ali Qadir and akhtu:
We both do massage, and often incorporate it into our lovemaking. We find that the deep tissue stuff is much less painful during intercourse.
As for alternating my way/his way each session - that doesn't apply. We both do rhythmic breathing when approaching climax (his choice as well as mine), and then I simply don't climax, while he does. Those are the only aspects of my practice that are detectable by him. Other than that, we do that same types of things we used to, physically speaking.
One would think he'd appreciate being relieved of the burden of "performance anxiety", since he doesn't have to worry about my climax - but apparently that's not the case. It's also been argued by some that a female climax shows "proper appreciation" for what he's doing, and gives him a "reward" for all his hard work. This makes female orgasm sound like candy to be handed out to the "good boys" who manage to hit all the right buttons. Needless to say, I disagree with this viewpoint.
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3D Sunset:
Thanks for the post, but that's from something I've already read. While it informed me well me at the time I read it, didn't directly address the information I seek.