It is difficult for me to be in public for great amounts of time, and I require recuperation time alone. As long as I take "small sips" of being in public, I am fine. There is so much to deal with when in a group of almost any sort. But to be monk-like and completely sequestered does not serve me, as I seek catalyst to grow, and also, I like to share what I am. I don't mean that in an elitist way; I will give an example: I have 3 nephews and a niece, and I make a point to be in their lives. Their parents are very mainstream, and I feel I give them another perspective, and represent more possibilities, as I am very much "out-of-the-box."
I endeavor to embrace fully wherever I am. When I am alone, I love it. And when I am out in a group setting, I embrace it and attempt to extract as much fun, joy, and opportunity for expression as I can. I have stated the ideal here, and I do fall short sometimes.
I am INTJ by the way.
This seems like a judgment to me upon extraverts, suggesting that he is immature and you are beyond that behavior. (I am not an extravert by the way, so I am not defending myself.)
Perhaps extraverts simply enjoy the interaction, and closeness, and energy exchange with others. Perhaps they are more open to trusting, and giving of themselves to others. Perhaps they are not just seeking attention.
I have often thought, since I am more on the introverted side, that I was being selfish in indulging my comfortable alone time. It is so easy to be alone, because you are not encountering any catalyst to grow and learn in your controlled environment.
I endeavor to embrace fully wherever I am. When I am alone, I love it. And when I am out in a group setting, I embrace it and attempt to extract as much fun, joy, and opportunity for expression as I can. I have stated the ideal here, and I do fall short sometimes.
I am INTJ by the way.
(10-19-2010, 12:18 PM)zanny Wrote: Mostly I see the difference between my husband and I as...He is seeking attention from others vs others seek my attention.
This seems like a judgment to me upon extraverts, suggesting that he is immature and you are beyond that behavior. (I am not an extravert by the way, so I am not defending myself.)
Perhaps extraverts simply enjoy the interaction, and closeness, and energy exchange with others. Perhaps they are more open to trusting, and giving of themselves to others. Perhaps they are not just seeking attention.
I have often thought, since I am more on the introverted side, that I was being selfish in indulging my comfortable alone time. It is so easy to be alone, because you are not encountering any catalyst to grow and learn in your controlled environment.