02-11-2012, 06:35 AM
(02-10-2012, 10:41 PM)Bring4th_GLB Wrote: One thought to offer: there is a fundamental error, you might say, in the premise which says, "I should base my own joy, love, and light according to what is happening/not happening around me or in the world."
If we make our emotional well being and state of mind dependent on outer circumstances, we're setting ourselves up for failure, I think. No configuration of catalyst and circumstance will ever be perfectly to ones liking, and if it ever happens to configure itself just to ones liking, it will be fleeting and soon change.
Better it is, I think, to find the strength, the resolve, and the focus to greet the catalyst of the moment, no matter how it appears or how undesirable its outer appearance, with a disciplined attitude of love, acceptance, and appreciation; and cultivate a the capacity to witness whatever arises in the moment with equanimity.
This! ^^^^
I truly believe happiness is a choice. People just don't realize they can choose it.
(02-10-2012, 01:37 AM)ninente Wrote: I have to tell you, I have been so lonely, spiritually, at times that it's almost done me in all by itself. I have never found anyone to "together seek" with as Ra puts it. I don't even know what that would be like. When I've thought I found someone, our paths veered off from each other's, often very soon after meeting, and the possibility was lost. I've concluded that this is part of the path I designed; nothing else to believe unless I want to become nihilistic.
Don't think that if these people are walking in and out of your life, that they're not there for exactly as long as they need to be. You might meet someone you're only supposed to seek with for a day, or a week, or a month. Seeking is not nessisarily something that has to be done within the bonds of life long friendship.