12-07-2009, 05:03 PM
Hey all!
Ive been trying to come back to threads that I have read and have been meaning to become a part of.
First I want to say that I am now encouraged to buy the Law of One books so that they are easily assessable to my children. I have always used the web for reading it but I can see now that it would be ok for me to have these books laying around the house. Coming from a home where the Bible was THE book, I am still untwisting a formed knot in my mind that certain things are unacceptable, one of those things was having other materials in my home. I have plenty of books that some I have slowly let find its way from its hiding place sense the children are full of questions these days. Im thinking I have a knew something on my x-mas list
My children are such a part of me. Im not sure if they are here for me more so then I am here for them! They have brought so many awakenings to me, I just hope I can offer the same for them. I love seeing them find love. For this, I somewhat am more of a friend when I need to be the leader. But it has balanced out well. Im not a stickler for much, but I do think a home is a foundation for growth, for whom ever dwells there (at least this is what I hope for). There are two words that are not allowed in my home that are common words for many homes....which is 'stupid' or 'shut up' (ok, that is 3 words). I dont allow belittling or someone watching someone else be busy. Alot of the values I have did not come into form until I had children in my home and become responsible for them. There are so many little things that can make big impressions.
I think children see 'what we live for'. They will see if you live for money, pride and power, kindness, or love....they will see. Teach them to stand up for themselves because they have reasons to be what they are. Set examples for them to learn how to do this in a loving way. Be kids with them! This is so important. My father was this role for me, he came to my level many times, free from adult bounds, it gave me so much love. My mother was the leader in the home, making choices...but always resolved everything with my father first. They were the greatest team I have ever known and am so blessed. My children see me help my parents, and love my brother unconditionally even though much strife has been caused there.
There are great movies out today that allow childrens fantasies to run and I think this is a great way for a parent to 'come to a child's level' and enjoy stillness with them in their wave of time. I have 2 children becoming adolescences now...and this is so new to me. The largest battle of today is they are always wanting to go stay the night with friends. I dont find this to be a great habit for every weekend but I also want them to have freedoms. I usually give in for the sleep over to be at our house, so I have my eye o things. When my children have to read books for school, I try to make time to also read the book so we have a common discussion. The balancing of being a parent to a child as well as being a self for another self....is tough but joyous
Anytime my kids ask me about spiritual things, I always include my thoughts as not a fact, but my own personal understandings. I think my family has been incarnating for a while together now. I believe this now more then ever.
Hope to add some actual thoughts here besides rambles soon....I am learning every day about how to incorporate the reflection to my children that we are all a part of a one, to harm another is to harm a self.
Ramblin on
Lynette
Ive been trying to come back to threads that I have read and have been meaning to become a part of.
First I want to say that I am now encouraged to buy the Law of One books so that they are easily assessable to my children. I have always used the web for reading it but I can see now that it would be ok for me to have these books laying around the house. Coming from a home where the Bible was THE book, I am still untwisting a formed knot in my mind that certain things are unacceptable, one of those things was having other materials in my home. I have plenty of books that some I have slowly let find its way from its hiding place sense the children are full of questions these days. Im thinking I have a knew something on my x-mas list
My children are such a part of me. Im not sure if they are here for me more so then I am here for them! They have brought so many awakenings to me, I just hope I can offer the same for them. I love seeing them find love. For this, I somewhat am more of a friend when I need to be the leader. But it has balanced out well. Im not a stickler for much, but I do think a home is a foundation for growth, for whom ever dwells there (at least this is what I hope for). There are two words that are not allowed in my home that are common words for many homes....which is 'stupid' or 'shut up' (ok, that is 3 words). I dont allow belittling or someone watching someone else be busy. Alot of the values I have did not come into form until I had children in my home and become responsible for them. There are so many little things that can make big impressions.
I think children see 'what we live for'. They will see if you live for money, pride and power, kindness, or love....they will see. Teach them to stand up for themselves because they have reasons to be what they are. Set examples for them to learn how to do this in a loving way. Be kids with them! This is so important. My father was this role for me, he came to my level many times, free from adult bounds, it gave me so much love. My mother was the leader in the home, making choices...but always resolved everything with my father first. They were the greatest team I have ever known and am so blessed. My children see me help my parents, and love my brother unconditionally even though much strife has been caused there.
There are great movies out today that allow childrens fantasies to run and I think this is a great way for a parent to 'come to a child's level' and enjoy stillness with them in their wave of time. I have 2 children becoming adolescences now...and this is so new to me. The largest battle of today is they are always wanting to go stay the night with friends. I dont find this to be a great habit for every weekend but I also want them to have freedoms. I usually give in for the sleep over to be at our house, so I have my eye o things. When my children have to read books for school, I try to make time to also read the book so we have a common discussion. The balancing of being a parent to a child as well as being a self for another self....is tough but joyous
Anytime my kids ask me about spiritual things, I always include my thoughts as not a fact, but my own personal understandings. I think my family has been incarnating for a while together now. I believe this now more then ever.
Hope to add some actual thoughts here besides rambles soon....I am learning every day about how to incorporate the reflection to my children that we are all a part of a one, to harm another is to harm a self.
Ramblin on
Lynette