04-06-2012, 06:07 AM
You're confirming what I just said. That you HAVE to bite those fishhooks,. "they should be confronted, not slinked away from" Can't you see it's doing exactly what they want you to do? You're making yourself into their puppet and call it "being yourself".. Who is going to decide how you spend your time? You or them? It should be you and not some fool pushing your buttons!
Calling someone an a****** from the starting line is not only doing exactly what they want. You're actually saying in the very beginning of the conversation to anyone who understands these things: "You p0wned me." I regard any expression intended to insult as a sign of that. That guys now is going to continue pushing that button. Not only does this spoil your evening, it and your responses are likely to spoil it for other guests and for your hosts.
You could call it standing up for yourself. But you're not, you're standing up for them. And you'll end up blaming someone else for your behavior.
Not giving them what they want is how you say that you're in charge. The absolute best thing is that if you use a little savvy in social situations. You're simply not going to meet asses.. I imagine some of my best friends to be asses in your book, they like pushing buttons and getting a response.
"No I think you're a cruel person for picking a fight with me. I thought you were genuinely curious but now I see you are just trying to bait me. That's an a****** move and is below you."
That response is 100 points to them. They'll be speaking about it for months and laughing about you. You'd be hearing random guys asking you about your vegetarianism claiming to be "Genuinely curious" until the end of days. I agree it isn't very nice of them, but people like that are all over the place. You have to be stronger than that. You have to see through those games. Unless you prefer to spend your time biting fishhooks. You're not going to make things better by playing into their games. They will continue playing them as long as it is fun.
Publishing that you're a vegetarian simply means you've just put a red flag on top of your head. For all the right reasons. But you're going to attract attention. And you're going to have to deal with that. The way in which you choose to deal with it has consequences. Things may be fair or unfair. But choosing the outcome you personally desire and making it a reality is not jellifish dodging, it is taking control of a situation, looking out for number one, and looking out for the people around you.
Calling someone an a****** from the starting line is not only doing exactly what they want. You're actually saying in the very beginning of the conversation to anyone who understands these things: "You p0wned me." I regard any expression intended to insult as a sign of that. That guys now is going to continue pushing that button. Not only does this spoil your evening, it and your responses are likely to spoil it for other guests and for your hosts.
You could call it standing up for yourself. But you're not, you're standing up for them. And you'll end up blaming someone else for your behavior.
Not giving them what they want is how you say that you're in charge. The absolute best thing is that if you use a little savvy in social situations. You're simply not going to meet asses.. I imagine some of my best friends to be asses in your book, they like pushing buttons and getting a response.
"No I think you're a cruel person for picking a fight with me. I thought you were genuinely curious but now I see you are just trying to bait me. That's an a****** move and is below you."
That response is 100 points to them. They'll be speaking about it for months and laughing about you. You'd be hearing random guys asking you about your vegetarianism claiming to be "Genuinely curious" until the end of days. I agree it isn't very nice of them, but people like that are all over the place. You have to be stronger than that. You have to see through those games. Unless you prefer to spend your time biting fishhooks. You're not going to make things better by playing into their games. They will continue playing them as long as it is fun.
Publishing that you're a vegetarian simply means you've just put a red flag on top of your head. For all the right reasons. But you're going to attract attention. And you're going to have to deal with that. The way in which you choose to deal with it has consequences. Things may be fair or unfair. But choosing the outcome you personally desire and making it a reality is not jellifish dodging, it is taking control of a situation, looking out for number one, and looking out for the people around you.
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