In regards to eating meat

[Monica]

Because I want them to feel understood. I want them to feel accepted. I want them to feel welcomed within my sphere of influence.

I find this really difficult to do here in 3d. It seems like a paradox to me. I feel that I should be able to do so 100%, but I'm not able to. This saddens me.

This is what I am working my way through right now.

To please you guys here, I should stop eating meat. To please my loved ones, I should continue to eat meat. To please Monkey, I should laugh with him at his harsh BBQ joke. To please my Self I would like all to be pleased and in joy, including my Self.

You see where that's going ?

I don't think that's what acceptance is about at all. Acceptance doesn't mean we have to live up to the expectations of another. That would be impossible anyway! And that would totally negate choice.

If you didn't feel like laughing at Monkey's comment, then it's not acceptance to laugh anyway just to please Monkey. (sorry, Monkey, hope you don't mind - this is just an example! NOT saying you expected him to laugh!)

If I, as a vegetarian, am displeased that you eat meat, that's my problem/challenge, not yours. I must accept you regardless of what you do, for me to 'accept' you.

And for me to accept you, doesn't mean I have to agree with your 'choice' to eat meat! I can simultaneously accept you and still disagree about eating meat.

Yes, it's paradoxical, but then, Ra did say they were here to teach us about resolution of paradox. That's where the power of choice resides, in my understanding. To simultaneously accept and choose, even if it's an entirely different choice, is very powerful and can help facilitate forgiveness. (but that's a whole 'nother topic.)