05-16-2012, 02:27 PM
(05-16-2012, 02:22 PM)Valtor Wrote:(05-16-2012, 02:06 PM)Bring4th_Monica Wrote:(05-16-2012, 01:55 PM)Valtor Wrote: Every time I feel guilt, I use this catalyst to accept the self and forgive the self. It's a blessing really!
I do too. But I also reflect on the reason for the guilt. If I just 'forgive' myself without even knowing what the guilt is trying to tell me, then I haven't actually accepted it, and thus cannot transmute it. It just gets swept under the rug - suppressed - and will rise again and again until I acknowledge, accept and forgive it. Only then can it be transmuted/transformed/healed/balanced.
Yeah, I forgot to add the understanding part.
It should have read. Every time I feel guilt, I use this catalyst to understand the self, accept the self and forgive the self.
And the guilt comes from anywhere. Say you sat down at the table and ate a meal. You feel funny. You recognize you feel guilty for eating. You ask why. Then you realize it's because you didn't wait for your spouse before sitting down. You accept your desire to make your spouse happy. You forgive and make restitution. ... Remember, this was guilt about eating.