07-30-2012, 01:32 PM
So many good replies. I hope many or all are helpful to you. What worked for me (I used to be in similar situation, many years ago) was mostly many years of involvement in 12-step programs, especially Co-dependents Anonymous. When I first started going to meetings, I made a commitment to myself that at each meeting I would speak from the heart honestly about something I was feeling - not tell an old story I had told hundreds of times before. The experience of speaking the truth of my heart to a group of strangers who were accepting, did not judge me, and just listened caringly, worked magic in my life, transforming me into a person with much more confidence, self respect and communication skill.
My impression of the meetings was that those who spoke the truth of NOW made the most progress. Some chose to recite the same litany of their problems every week, and they progressed more slowly, it seemed to me.
My impression of the meetings was that those who spoke the truth of NOW made the most progress. Some chose to recite the same litany of their problems every week, and they progressed more slowly, it seemed to me.
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