(08-24-2015, 06:23 PM)Aion Wrote: I do feel a little guilty though, not in regards to food, but because the comments that have been made, from Monica, Diana and TTP
Our comments didn't make you feel guilty. A feeling of guilt comes from within. If one is clear and comfortable with their choices, then they will never feel guilty because of something someone else said, no matter what.
I actually did an experiment on this here at B4. I started a thread saying that eating tomatoes was STS.
People just laughed. No one took it seriously. No one got their panties in a bundle because I 'made them feel guilty' for eating tomatoes! In fact, I couldn't make them feel guilty, no matter how hard I tried!
Why? Because the idea is absurd.
Yet when discussing meat, people often feel offended, and accuse us of making them feel guilty.
Why? Because the idea isn't absurd. It is sound. That guilt is coming from within, and it's there for a reason.
We can't make anyone feel guilty.
(08-24-2015, 06:23 PM)Aion Wrote: That may be frustrating for you that your efforts had the opposite effect
We aren't attached to results. We're just doing what we feel called to do.
(08-24-2015, 06:23 PM)Aion Wrote: that was before when I would only try to do things in service to others and avoid service to myself at all costs. I've realized now that I am negatively polarizing towards myself because service to others excluding yourself is NOT service to ALL.
I know what you mean!
(08-24-2015, 06:23 PM)Aion Wrote: I am learning I have to both accept the results of self-service and service to others for service to be polarizing for me.
Serving Self isn't STS, as in, polarizing to STS. Only serving Self at the expense of others is STS-polarizing.
Serving Self is actually required to polarize STO.
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