(03-23-2012, 08:54 AM)Cyan Wrote: I've spent a decade wondering what to do to the person that molested me, and this thread seems to be full of people still wondering.
I'm wondering about how most people could have the experience bandwith of sexuality introduced to their existence with the least amount of pain.
What I have found helpful when I desired to forgive a harm done to me in the past was to write it out. Write your thoughts and feelings about how this affected you and what the person did that harmed you. How the events that transpired affected your life. You could send a letter to the person if you feel right about it, if it comes from a place of empowerment(taking your power back) but not with vengeance. If you are clear about your feelings and intentions it could lead to the person taking responsibility and full forgiveness. Forgiveness is a process, and sometimes the offender doesn't reach the place of being responsible for their actions. So I would work on processing my own thoughts/feelings and ask for guidance from Spirit before approaching the offender. A true act of forgiveness is very powerful, when offender and offended come together.
I am sorry that your initial experience of sexuality harmed you, I grieve for these imbalances, and I am sure that you can heal and discover a wonderful and beautiful sexual relationship with someone you love.
(03-23-2012, 08:54 AM)Cyan Wrote: I feel very strongly that child molesters should be helped to get rid of the molestation / power illusion relating to their interactions. The age at the interaction is irrelevant, the power disparity between the two is what is relevant.
A psychopathic abusive relationship is a psychopathic abusive relationship no matter if one partner is 11 or 91. And that is what we should, in my opinion focus on.
I agree, Cyan, that we as a society should place the healing of mental/spiritual pathologies high on our priorities. These things were kept in the dark in the past and now it is coming into the light and being revealed. Often it is a pattern where the cycle repeats generationally. That is stopping now because it is time, and brilliant souls like yourself took this on to heal and transmute the pattern. It's time for the abuse of children to stop.
And it's time for our sexuality to be green ray, no more taking from others, or having power over another, most especially children. Sexual energy is such powerful, life force energy and when it is misused it stunts our life-force.
(03-23-2012, 08:54 AM)Cyan Wrote: If two people make an informed decision to do something together then the state or the group consciousness should not be given the right to say that one of them is lying. So, as long as one of the people involved doesnt press charges, it doesnt belong to anyone else. The cut-off should be when the person is considered adult enough to make personal choices. What ever you happen to believe such a state of transition into adulthood is personal.
It is personal, but society still needs to come into agreement about it and make appropriate laws. I agree that those in a consensual sexual relationship need to be adults in order to make a responsible choice. By adult I mean being responsible for all the consequences that could happen as a result of sex. (ie. pregnancy) If someone isn't ready to care for a child, then imo they are not ready for a sexual relationship. I realize that my views are pretty conservative, but that is what I tell my kids because we are coming from a repressive religious structure and I prefer to have them think of the consequences rather than feeling guilt about "sin".
In the US someone is a minor until age 18, and that is the age of consent, I think.
Another thought about healing, I think that now, since the 4D light is stronger, healing can happen much faster than in the past when people I love were healing from this. Things are happening faster now, energy is shifting, lots of good stuff is happeneing on our planet. If we can add our light to the brightness, how much brighter it will be