02-06-2012, 04:28 AM
today I learnt ...
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that I am still projecting. My flatmate was being careless with his cooking and wasn't paying attention to what he was boiling. He was distracting himself with his mobile phone in the living room. I got a bit angry, and said, hey, your stuff is boiling. And he came and took care of it.
I spent the next 5 minutes or so fuming - why can't he be more self-responsible, take care of his s-hit? and this was most true. He wasn't being attentive.
but why was I so pissed at the situation?? I ended up dredging up some memories of myself where I had NOT taken self-responsibility in my life. I was still angry at myself for those incidents in my own life. They were NOT fully accepted and forgiven yet.
so yes, what I thought about my friend was true, but the emotive reaction is a key sign that something else is going on. Ra says as much: pay attention to your emotions; what ticks you off, what irks you to the bone. There is more going on
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what did you learn today? (this is a meme stolen off reddit lol)
(ps, I know this is a 'loose' use of the term projection. I hope you appreciate the spirit of the matter, rather than the fine technical definition )
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that I am still projecting. My flatmate was being careless with his cooking and wasn't paying attention to what he was boiling. He was distracting himself with his mobile phone in the living room. I got a bit angry, and said, hey, your stuff is boiling. And he came and took care of it.
I spent the next 5 minutes or so fuming - why can't he be more self-responsible, take care of his s-hit? and this was most true. He wasn't being attentive.
but why was I so pissed at the situation?? I ended up dredging up some memories of myself where I had NOT taken self-responsibility in my life. I was still angry at myself for those incidents in my own life. They were NOT fully accepted and forgiven yet.
so yes, what I thought about my friend was true, but the emotive reaction is a key sign that something else is going on. Ra says as much: pay attention to your emotions; what ticks you off, what irks you to the bone. There is more going on
- -
what did you learn today? (this is a meme stolen off reddit lol)
(ps, I know this is a 'loose' use of the term projection. I hope you appreciate the spirit of the matter, rather than the fine technical definition )