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10-04-2012, 12:59 PM, (This post was last modified: 10-04-2012, 01:04 PM by Conifer16.)
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if anyone is curious as to what i did, every time i went over a bridge that was over water i would hold my breath. there is a superstition that if you can hold your breath all the way across then you get a wish. if you do in multiple times in a row then the wish gets stronger and more likely to happen. :-) I don't actually think that holding your breath dos anything... but the intent i put into each wish over and over was enough to generate a large out of energy towards my goal manifesting. and so it was a ritual to fool my ego and logical mind to not sabotage my efforts :-P I went over many tens of bidges and never let go of my breath no matter how long it was. there were some close calls when we had to slow down over longer bridges, but i managed. And i am of the opinion that the universe has provided me with the opportunity. i just need to show her why i would be awesome for her :-)
when i want something.. i just tell the universe that it needs to happen. then it does. :-) i just send off my desire and know that it will manifest. i went to the north west youth corps for 6 weeks and wanted to work on trails near the ocean. there was no reason to think that was likely. it was more likely that we would get sent inland. well for some reason our crew went to the coast 4 out of the 6 weeks and the 5th week was right next to the coast. i wanted it, it happened. i went to the ocean :-) now i am always working towards that desire as well. i am never sitting by passively and hoping that the universe will grant my wish. i am out there presenting myself to the universe telling it "throw the opportunities!" "hit me" :-P and then i act on them. sometimes it take a while as was the case for this girl who has come into my life. but it will happen, and you just need patience, which i have huge amounts of, as well as trust that all will work out. :-)
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10-04-2012, 01:30 PM,
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I started this thread for others, since I'm happily married. But the comments have triggered some reflection on my part. Having been in a monogamous relationship for 30 years, I can say with certainty that the most spiritual growth my hubby and I have had, was in the ways in which we complemented each other. We are actually very, very different! But over the years, it turned out that we each had exactly what the other needed for balance! We've seen this happen many, many, many times. It's like we each are pulling the other up and drawing out the best qualities in the other, and helping to strengthen the other.

Had I made a list of qualities I wanted, 30 years ago, I would never have attracted this particular person in my life, because I never would have thought of the particular qualities he has!

I'm not saying that making a list doesn't work. I'm just saying that, in my case, I wouldn't have thought to put on my list those things that I ended up getting which turned out to be just what I needed and wanted, even though I didn't realize it at the time.
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10-04-2012, 02:57 PM, (This post was last modified: 10-04-2012, 02:58 PM by BlatzAdict.)
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i made a wish asking for all the things i want in a girl to come true. i didn't add spirituality to that list, and i got everything i asked for
anime, kinky stuff, cuddling, cuteness, and even other things and still it didn't go well.
because whenever i talk about loo, ufos, or confederation stuff it gets all labeled as a conspiracy theory
i've gone through two relationships which ended the same.

I WANT SOMEONE WHO HAS READ THE LOO AND LOVES IT AS MUCH AS I DO

plus all that other stuff.
lol reading this thread has made me smile with a deep feeling of love in my heart, i haven't had that all week thank you everyone.
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10-04-2012, 03:00 PM,
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The problem is that we may know what we want, but we certainly do not know what we need. Smile

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10-04-2012, 03:05 PM,
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(10-04-2012, 03:00 PM)Patrick Wrote:  The problem is that we may know what we want, but we certainly do not know what we need. Smile

touche' el capitan. touche'
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10-04-2012, 03:22 PM, (This post was last modified: 10-04-2012, 04:23 PM by IndigoGeminiWolf.)
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(10-04-2012, 02:57 PM)BlatzAdict Wrote:  i made a wish asking for all the things i want in a girl to come true. i didn't add spirituality to that list, and i got everything i asked for
anime, kinky stuff, cuddling, cuteness, and even other things and still it didn't go well.
because whenever i talk about loo, ufos, or confederation stuff it gets all labeled as a conspiracy theory
i've gone through two relationships which ended the same.

I WANT SOMEONE WHO HAS READ THE LOO AND LOVES IT AS MUCH AS I DO

plus all that other stuff.
lol reading this thread has made me smile with a deep feeling of love in my heart, i haven't had that all week thank you everyone.

Good point Blatz. Especially with the kinky stuff and cuddling. I already think that most wolfy anthros are cute. I don't think many if any anthros out there in the Universe have read the Law of One. If so, in another form. I would like them to be spiritually minded as well, but it's not a necessity. I'd let them have their own belief system.

There is an anthro somewhere who needs me and I need them.
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10-04-2012, 05:00 PM,
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Man today is funny, there is this scottish girl in my row and I had this total crush on her

Then I find out she doesn't like sensitive types who like video games,

she also said she doesn't like anime

it feels like there was this person i totally wanted to know more about and then spirit showed me the way. she comes up to my cube and is like hey let's go for a coffee break.

i thought sure why not i usually go do something else on my lunch. and umm a strange turn of events shows me that she's recently divorced or going to be.. everything i hoped for and then i found out i would be the last person she would like.

and she would not like my interests at all... this coming harvest is really bringing every single little thing to the forefront and clearing all karma

i find it beautiful and wonderful. and a sign that the right one is just around the corner.
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10-05-2012, 12:58 AM, (This post was last modified: 10-05-2012, 01:00 AM by jacrob.)
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"the communication would far more likely have been to the subject of the satisfying of that red-ray, sexual impulse. When this had occurred other information such as the naming could be offered with clear perception...." gosh that is RAW. Are they implying there would be bedroom activities prior to naming? I think I prefer post veil, skirting around the issue, flirtation, nerves etc.

Let me recall another channeling...this time from Bashar (I'll leave the RA quotes for the experts as I note I often get a completely different interpretation to what most on this forum do....or alternatively I have no idea what the RA are trying to say) on the process of conscious manifestation.

The first few stages involves knowing what you want, whether it be your perfect partner, perfect job, house etc. Day dream about it, feel the emotions of what it would be like to have it in your life. Then start behaving as if you have it already i.e. body language, feelings of love, security etc.

Then start to believe it will happen, is happening now. The last bit is the paradox; let it go.... out into the ether with the mindset that it doesn't need to manifest at all. This takes away the fear and control that it must manifest now and allows your Higher Self to give you more than you thought you wanted (as per Monica's post about her hubby being perfect but not having known what was perfect at the time. Your Higher Self knows and wants to give it to you).

Anyway he explains it better than I do so you may want to look it up. (Youtube blocked on library computer so can't get link).

Oh and Meerie, with the list I made I had a vision of this perfect person and would visualize it before sleep, the minute I woke up and on my magical days. My Outlook Calendar at work sends me a reminder on the first day of my magical phase, then I gear up to focus on the 4th, 5th and 6th day.

I think a good affirmation to work on, maybe with a rose quartz hand holder, is "I love myself unconditionally. I treat myself with loving kindness and respect." I found this to be very good when I was getting borderline verbal abuse at work. These same people now are groveling, and end all emails with smiley faces. It's embarrassing but a stark pointer as to how others were mirroring my subconscious dislike of myself.

I should add that you then need to treat yourself with love and respect. Look in the mirror and tell yourself how beautiful you are. After every shower/bath use some organic oils (I use a 50/50 mix of shea butter and virgin coconut oil which you need to melt in the hands by rubbing together and visualising the love building up in your hands) and while rubbing it into your skin do it will love. Infuse yourself with love. Feel how lovely your skin feels. Put rose quartz in your bath and during the day leave it in the sun.

This post is getting too long.....
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10-05-2012, 01:43 AM,
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I made a list once too, long ago, and he was perfect... everything on my list... and some extra, that was dark.

He was a great catalyst for sure.

I realized that although I thought I was clear on my intentions, hiding in my shadow was my own darkness.

Does anyone feel they are in a relationship with another who is from the same social memory complex?








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10-05-2012, 08:35 AM,
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(10-05-2012, 12:58 AM)jacrob Wrote:  This post is getting too long.....

Not too long! Good stuff! Please tell us more!

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10-05-2012, 09:05 AM, (This post was last modified: 10-05-2012, 09:07 AM by Ankh.)
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(10-05-2012, 12:58 AM)jacrob Wrote:  The first few stages involves knowing what you want, whether it be your perfect partner, perfect job, house etc. Day dream about it, feel the emotions of what it would be like to have it in your life. Then start behaving as if you have it already i.e. body language, feelings of love, security etc.

The "technique" that I used is that I turned to the One Infinite Creator and asked for a job where I could be of the outmost service to the One, understanding that in that it would be of the outmost service to myself, as we are all one. I got that job. It can be done in prayers or rituals or whatever other magical situations crafted and suited for you personally. The Creator is infinitely intelligent and always aware. If you cry out that you want to serve It in the outmost way, It will bring this opportunity for you "momentarily". The same goes with seeking a mate I believe. For me it is about these things:

84:22 Wrote:The harvest from the previous creation was that which included the male and female mind/body/spirit. It was the intention of the original Logoi that entities mate with one another in any fashion which caused a greater polarization. It was determined, after observation of the process of many Logoi, that polarization increased many fold if the mating were not indiscriminate. Consequent Logoi thusly preserved a bias towards the mated relationship which is more characteristic of more disciplined personalities and of what you may call higher densities. The free will of each entity, however, was always paramount and a bias only could be offered.

83:17 Wrote:Those of like mind which together seek shall far more surely find.

So if one's intention is to seek the One Creator through a mated relationship, then just asking for this mate, sincerely, should result in him/her knocking on one's door in a moment. No? But there is of course infinite amount of individual and unique situations.
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10-05-2012, 09:07 AM,
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(10-04-2012, 11:20 AM)Meerie Wrote:  I found someone who was loving and tender at first but then after some time showed his psychopathic side by being physically and verbally abusive...

Let me just say my opinion that that individual lost someone very special in terms of forcing you to detach due to his abusive behavior.

You are wonderful, Meerie! I am sure you will find someone who knows the real value of your wonderful glowing inner self. At least, that is my most sincere prayer, if you desire inside your heart to find a mated pair going forward. My best wishes to you Heart
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10-05-2012, 09:41 AM,
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(10-05-2012, 12:58 AM)jacrob Wrote:  "the communication would far more likely have been to the subject of the satisfying of that red-ray, sexual impulse. When this had occurred other information such as the naming could be offered with clear perception...."

gosh that is RAW. Are they implying there would be bedroom activities prior to naming? ...

Oh yes, that's exactly what they are saying. Cloths being ripped and thrown all over the place and certainly no time to talk. Smile

This can still happen with the veil you know. With enough passion in the air. Big Grin

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10-05-2012, 09:43 AM,
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(10-05-2012, 12:58 AM)jacrob Wrote:  "the communication would far more likely have been to the subject of the satisfying of that red-ray, sexual impulse. When this had occurred other information such as the naming could be offered with clear perception...." gosh that is RAW. Are they implying there would be bedroom activities prior to naming? I think I prefer post veil, skirting around the issue, flirtation, nerves etc.

Yes, I think that's what they're implying (bedroom activities before naming). Actually, from the sound of it, they might be side-of-the-road activities.

(10-05-2012, 09:07 AM)Confused Wrote:  You are wonderful, Meerie! I am sure you will find someone who knows the real value of your wonderful glowing inner self. At least, that is my most sincere prayer, if you desire inside your heart to find a mated pair going forward. My best wishes to you Heart

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10-05-2012, 10:00 AM,
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(10-05-2012, 09:43 AM)βαθμιαίος Wrote:  
(10-05-2012, 09:07 AM)Confused Wrote:  You are wonderful, Meerie! I am sure you will find someone who knows the real value of your wonderful glowing inner self. At least, that is my most sincere prayer, if you desire inside your heart to find a mated pair going forward. My best wishes to you Heart

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Awww "blush" - thank you guys!
So lovely of you to say that. Best wishes to you as well. May the force be with us all, always.
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10-08-2012, 10:23 PM,
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Aw, no sparks yet? Well I guess Bring4th shouldn't get into the online dating service business!
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10-08-2012, 10:30 PM,
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eh.. i am working on a possible relationship already. it was a nice idea though :-) and might still work. this thread could be seen as a gem that one day will be found by two different people that will hit it off :-)
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10-09-2012, 08:45 AM,
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(10-08-2012, 10:23 PM)Bring4th_Monica Wrote:  Aw, no sparks yet? Well I guess Bring4th shouldn't get into the online dating service business!

It's better in person anyway. Maybe have a homecoming 4 times a year in different places. Because that worked for Lana from what I understand. Smile

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10-09-2012, 09:01 AM,
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(10-08-2012, 10:23 PM)Bring4th_Monica Wrote:  Aw, no sparks yet? Well I guess Bring4th shouldn't get into the online dating service business!

You know, Monica, many moons ago on b4th, an Asian Indian's delicate loving heart was broken when he realized that an half native Indian lady (by blood) was already taken. Wink :p

May be the pain of that broken heart haunts b4th's dating services efforts! :p Big Grin

PS: All of the above is just humor, for those who may find the post very strange! Smile
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10-09-2012, 12:20 PM, (This post was last modified: 10-09-2012, 12:20 PM by BlatzAdict.)
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hard to stop wanting bring 4th to do dating stuff
When I have so much of a vested interest in finding someone
I looked all over ok cupid and i'm honestly tired of looking and reading at peoples profiles.

Does that make me tired of people?
when i meet loo people there is not even an introduction needed, it's like you already kind of know them.

Want!
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10-09-2012, 11:49 PM,
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I agree with blatz. I think I'm tired of looking lol all I keep finding is guys I'm not interested in or if I find someone interesting there's always a catch! Haha I think my soul mate should be right in front of my eyes maybe someone I never noticed before lol but in the mean time I guess it can be fun meeting new people and going through the process Smile
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10-10-2012, 01:06 AM,
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(10-09-2012, 11:49 PM)nina1021 Wrote:  I agree with blatz. I think I'm tired of looking lol all I keep finding is guys I'm not interested in or if I find someone interesting there's always a catch! Haha I think my soul mate should be right in front of my eyes maybe someone I never noticed before lol but in the mean time I guess it can be fun meeting new people and going through the process Smile

Do you know why you are or are not interested in those guys?

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10-10-2012, 01:40 AM,
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(10-10-2012, 01:06 AM)Bring4th_Monica Wrote:  
(10-09-2012, 11:49 PM)nina1021 Wrote:  I agree with blatz. I think I'm tired of looking lol all I keep finding is guys I'm not interested in or if I find someone interesting there's always a catch! Haha I think my soul mate should be right in front of my eyes maybe someone I never noticed before lol but in the mean time I guess it can be fun meeting new people and going through the process Smile

Do you know why you are or are not interested in those guys?

as far as girls go, it's that spark when you talk to them and get excited over the dumb stuff you talk about.

it's the look in their eye when we cuddle or do something awesome like see a ufo or i don't know

it's the general response after the work day, hey i read something about loo... met with enthusiasm instead of ugh i'm tired and i don't want to talk about this.

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10-10-2012, 08:14 AM, (This post was last modified: 10-10-2012, 08:25 AM by nina1021.)
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Again I agree with with blatzadict. I'm turning 24 in two weeks and I feel a huge disconnect with guys my age. And older guys do not take me seriously. They take my looks at face value and only want one thing. I've even tried to down down play my looks. Wear loose clothing, meet guys at a bookstore instead of a bar yet it always comes down to one thing. There goes Nina with the great smile and great body ugh. Anyway I'm going to try speed dating in NYC woohoo maybe this won't be a lonely winter after all. Lol sorry for the rant. And maybe it's because I've decided not to be with a broken person anymore. I've dated a lot of broken people and our relationship usually ends because I've fixed them and helped them meet a better person because they are a better person. Ha! No more case loads for me lol
Hmm after reading my post I feel like I came off a bit bitchy so I must add some optimism. I know I'm an old soul I just find it challenging for someone like me to relate to anyone my age. I'm from jersey and most of the people in my surrounding areas are into a lot of superficial things. It's like no one wants to just sit and have a good conversation with out incorporating alcohol or mind numbing music lol. I know my soul mate is out there maybe I should just walking around with a t shirt that says "missing soul mate have you seen him?" That way it will trigger something in someone's mind! Does anyone want to share how they met their significant other? It will give me hope Smile
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10-10-2012, 08:36 AM, (This post was last modified: 10-10-2012, 08:36 AM by Patrick.)
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My fiancee and I were just friends and when she saw me the first time she told herself that I looked like I would be a good friend to her, someone with whom she would never fall in love with. That part didn't go so well, because we fell in love deeply in a matter of weeks. Big Grin It's been 7 years already. We are so different, but also very much complementary.

So my advice would be to look outside your patterns. Outside what you are used to look for. This way you may not get what you want per se, but you will get what you need. Smile

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10-10-2012, 08:47 AM,
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Aww thanks Patrick and congrats on your engagement and finding someone that's good for you! You're right I should start being a little adventurous in thinking outside of the box! I may know what I want but it's time to start thinking about what I need.
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10-10-2012, 09:05 AM,
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Nina I can relate to what you say... I can also relate to what Blatz said about dating sites, I registered on one and unregistered one day later, it seems pretty pointless.
When I read peoples profiles I find few men whom I could relate to in terms of what they said about themselves or what they were looking for.
However when I read girls profiles I was like "wow ! awesome, she seems to be intelligent, sympathetic and goodlooking".
too bad I am not a lesbian Tongue
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10-10-2012, 09:34 AM,
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(10-10-2012, 09:05 AM)Meerie Wrote:  Nina I can relate to what you say... I can also relate to what Blatz said about dating sites, I registered on one and unregistered one day later, it seems pretty pointless...

This is how I met my fiancee. But I concentrated on meeting people. I met at least 20 girls in a short time that summer 7 years ago. You cannot know people via the internet (not for this kind of knowing anyway). I invited them to meet in a public place just for the length of a coffee (if it does not go well, then a coffee can be drunk quickly Smile). I did not bother with photos or the details on the profiles.

Tons of girls were afraid to just meet like that without first exchanging a lot via the internet first. BUT that is the trap. Meet people and only use dating sites for what they are, a list of available other selves. Smile

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10-10-2012, 09:41 AM,
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Yeah, I only talked about recently when I registered and unregistered the next day... I also used dating sites to meet guys some years ago.
It was mostly horrible. That is all I can say. I made one friend, though, with whom I stayed in touch, until later his new girlfriend was jealous and wouldn't allow us to meet up anymore.
I remember on one particularly horrible date thinking "oh how I would love to sit home now and watch soap operas". Lol
I still think it's easier for guys to meet girls on dating sites. There are many nice girls out there.
(maybe I should reconsider and go lesbian)
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Merrie ill time will come one day lmaooo too bad I'm not a lesbian either maybe it would be easier haha I agree in Patrick the Internet is a great place to start but it's almost starting to feel like a chore. Kinda like looking for a job lol you look through profiles check the qualifications and decide if you want to respond with a resume about yourself. Lol there should be a LOO dating site! Lol
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