05-06-2011, 01:33 PM
hi steve
no doubt its true we need catalysts to help us make choices. i also feel i provide a catalyst for the abusers as they can see the depths of dislike that exist out there for them. the only way they will ever wake up is when someone confronts them, they dont wake up on their own. so i consider myself a confronter. twice in my life i have intervened in a actual physical way with abusive people. i didnt want too i would have rather not have had to but they gave me no choice. both times the abuse stopped and never reoccured again. so that tells me something abusers need to be confronted and see just how pissed off they make others. i really dont care if they like it or not they dont care how others feel why should i care about how they feel. if a person doesnt bother me or someone close to me i will never ever bother them. if they choose to violate our boundaries there is a price to pay. to me its like someone breaking into your house, hey u break into my house u are fair game i am not going to stop and worry about how u feel .
whether it is " right or loving " in other peoples eyes is not my problem. i have to protect my own happiness and the welfare of those i care about. so yes abusers do royally piss me off and anything i can do to stop them i will absolutely do it and i want them to know i despise the way they act.
your brother
norral
no doubt its true we need catalysts to help us make choices. i also feel i provide a catalyst for the abusers as they can see the depths of dislike that exist out there for them. the only way they will ever wake up is when someone confronts them, they dont wake up on their own. so i consider myself a confronter. twice in my life i have intervened in a actual physical way with abusive people. i didnt want too i would have rather not have had to but they gave me no choice. both times the abuse stopped and never reoccured again. so that tells me something abusers need to be confronted and see just how pissed off they make others. i really dont care if they like it or not they dont care how others feel why should i care about how they feel. if a person doesnt bother me or someone close to me i will never ever bother them. if they choose to violate our boundaries there is a price to pay. to me its like someone breaking into your house, hey u break into my house u are fair game i am not going to stop and worry about how u feel .
whether it is " right or loving " in other peoples eyes is not my problem. i have to protect my own happiness and the welfare of those i care about. so yes abusers do royally piss me off and anything i can do to stop them i will absolutely do it and i want them to know i despise the way they act.
your brother
norral