(01-11-2018, 01:19 PM)Ra1111 Wrote: [ -> ]Diana , apologies for not knowing this for certain or not, but have you performed healings on people ? If so or if not, could I pm you with a few more specifics on this injury , or do you know of anyone I could message , therefore I can get a little bit more specific advice ?
No apologies needed. I haven't, not really. I don't directly try to heal anyone, unless it's right there in front of me and the person, animal, plant, thing is damaged. I feel that in healing myself I create and send out the general tendency to heal, and that would be of help to others. And sending healing, love, light intention out to the planet in general is something I sometimes do.
What I do as another service is just offer some direction derived from my accumulated knowledge and awareness, usually only when asked, and only when it doesn't infringe on free will or someone's belief system (for example, I would never tell someone who has cancer that the chemotherapy they believe might help them is other than what they believe, no matter what I think, unless they ask my opinion, and then I tread very carefully and in a positive, inclusive manner rather than shooting down what they have put their faith in). I happen to know a lot about inner child work. It is a phenomenon that no adult can deal with directly, because the child has cordoned off this part and only the child can honestly express the raw feelings he or she had as a child (not as an adult remembering it, if they even can) and be healed from that standpoint. This is why so many adults say, I'm okay with what happened to me as a child, it made me who I am today, I forgive my parents/perpetrators, and the like—and this may be true, from the adult perspective. But the child is still fragmented and walled off to consciousness by protective barriers, which were put in place at the time of the trauma so the child would survive (mentally, physically, emotionally).
John Bradshaw has pioneered this work, and written many books on the subject. You are concerned with a known trauma/injury, but sometimes we don't know what triggers us. A place to start is to look at your life and your behaviors, and identify any behaviors that are not age-appropriate. When I did this I immediately saw that I pout, which so surprised me as I had not paid any attention to this obvious anomaly. Then, you identify at what age that behavior is appropriate (in my case I guessed 4 years old or thereabout), and you have a clue to where the triggering traumas is sourced.
One exercise that is very efficacious with this information (or in your case, have your partner do this regarding the relevant incident) is write down a question with your dominant hand as the adult (such as, Why do you have pain in this area, [4-year-old Diana]?). Then, answer the question as your 4-year-old self (or whatever age is appropriate for the exercise) writing with your non-dominant hand.
The bottom line, I think, is that the healing must come from the self, though we can support and help facilitate the process for others. I know a lot of disciplines suggest confronting the perpetrators (if we are looking at abuse for example), but ultimately I don't think this works because you cannot find a source of blame. If the perpetrator was a parent, for example, did they not have their own traumas which triggered their behaviors such as parents who abused them? and so on back through generations. Not only that, people in our lives who may cause pain can be said to be helping us on our evolutionary journeys, so blame and revenge and validation become meaningless in this context.
When accessing the wounded inner child, the adult you are now can provide whatever the child needed—comfort, nurturing, unconditional acceptance. Personally I am still working through this as I don't think there is just one trauma to address. And it's crazy what some people have buried, that no adult would see as particularly important. I have a friend, who during a Landmark session, unearthed a life-long trigger which utterly surprised her because she didn't even remember it—that her mother took away a favorite stuffed animal, a horse, as punishment for something. She absolutely sobbed (or it may be more accurate to say her child self finally sobbed instead of stuffing the emotions down that would have created too much pain at the time) when the memory surfaced.
This all sounds very deep and psychological, but even simple physical traumas are enmeshed with feelings and thoughts. Even beyond 3D existence, as Ra said, it behooves wanderers not to "get caught up in the maelstrom," so healing whatever 3D traumas we may have accumulated is efficacious even to whatever mission someone may have here. And in doing so, this energy of healing forges a pathway or reinforces one already there, like a synapse in the giant brain of existence, making it easier for others to access.
