06-27-2013, 02:24 PM
Do you respond to a message from a girl that you are not interested in?
My thoughts on the matter:
-The seeming conduct that others display thus far (based on girls responding to my messages) seems to be that if you're not interested, you ignore their message. However, popular or common courses of conduct matter little to me.
-If they ask a specific question that involves information that they could not get elsewhere and is not a thinly veiled attempt to just get to know me (such as a girl who might ask me about whether district attorneys rein in police falsifying evidence), I think I want to respond in order to increase their knowledge.
-If you do respond, do you immediately at some point include language clearly indicating you are not interested, or do you leave just keep it short and brief and try to simply strongly hint you are not interested.
-A part of me feels bad for not responding, because I know when I don't get a reply to one of my messages I can feel a momentarily twinge of of the feeling of rejection, but I also acknowledge that that feeling of rejection gets stronger if it occurs after multiple messages have been exchanged.
What's the most loving way to handle this?
My thoughts on the matter:
-The seeming conduct that others display thus far (based on girls responding to my messages) seems to be that if you're not interested, you ignore their message. However, popular or common courses of conduct matter little to me.
-If they ask a specific question that involves information that they could not get elsewhere and is not a thinly veiled attempt to just get to know me (such as a girl who might ask me about whether district attorneys rein in police falsifying evidence), I think I want to respond in order to increase their knowledge.
-If you do respond, do you immediately at some point include language clearly indicating you are not interested, or do you leave just keep it short and brief and try to simply strongly hint you are not interested.
-A part of me feels bad for not responding, because I know when I don't get a reply to one of my messages I can feel a momentarily twinge of of the feeling of rejection, but I also acknowledge that that feeling of rejection gets stronger if it occurs after multiple messages have been exchanged.
What's the most loving way to handle this?