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I found this interesting article on the development of compassion from a Buddhist filter.

Quote:I believe compassion to be one of the few things we can practice that will bring immediate and long-term happiness to our lives. I’m not talking about the short-term gratification of pleasures like sex, drugs or gambling (though I’m not knocking them), but something that will bring true and lasting happiness. The kind that sticks.

The key to developing compassion in your life is to make it a daily practice.

Meditate upon it in the morning (you can do it while checking email), think about it when you interact with others, and reflect on it at night. In this way, it becomes a part of your life. Or as the Dalai Lama also said, “This is my simple religion. There is no need for temples; no need for complicated philosophy. Our own brain, our own heart is our temple; the philosophy is kindness.”

Definition
Let’s use the Wikipedia definition of Compassion:

Compassion is an emotion that is a sense of shared suffering, most often combined with a desire to alleviate or reduce the suffering of another; to show special kindness to those who suffer. Compassion essentially arises through empathy, and is often characterized through actions, wherein a person acting with compassion will seek to aid those they feel compassionate for.

Compassionate acts are generally considered those which take into account the suffering of others and attempt to alleviate that suffering as if it were one’s own. In this sense, the various forms of the Golden Rule are clearly based on the concept of compassion.

Compassion differs from other forms of helpful or humane behavior in that its focus is primarily on the alleviation of suffering.

Benefits
Why develop compassion in your life? Well, there are scientific studies that suggest there are physical benefits to practicing compassion — people who practice it produce 100 percent more DHEA, which is a hormone that counteracts the aging process, and 23 percent less cortisol — the “stress hormone.”

But there are other benefits as well, and these are emotional and spiritual. The main benefit is that it helps you to be more happy, and brings others around you to be more happy. If we agree that it is a common aim of each of us to strive to be happy, then compassion is one of the main tools for achieving that happiness. It is therefore of utmost importance that we cultivate compassion in our lives and practice compassion every day.

How do we do that? This guide contains 7 different practices that you can try out and perhaps incorporate into your every day life.

7 Compassion Practices

Morning ritual. Greet each morning with a ritual. Try this one, suggest by the Dalai Lama: “Today I am fortunate to have woken up, I am alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others, to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings, I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others, I am going to benefit others as much as I can.” Then, when you’ve done this, try one of the practices below.
Empathy Practice. The first step in cultivating compassion is to develop empathy for your fellow human beings. Many of us believe that we have empathy, and on some level nearly all of us do. But many times we are centered on ourselves (I’m no exception) and we let our sense of empathy get rusty. Try this practice: Imagine that a loved one is suffering. Something terrible has happened to him or her. Now try to imagine the pain they are going through. Imagine the suffering in as much detail as possible. After doing this practice for a couple of weeks, you should try moving on to imagining the suffering of others you know, not just those who are close to you.
Commonalities practice. Instead of recognizing the differences between yourself and others, try to recognize what you have in common. At the root of it all, we are all human beings. We need food, and shelter, and love. We crave attention, and recognition, and affection, and above all, happiness. Reflect on these commonalities you have with every other human being, and ignore the differences. One of my favorite exercises comes from a great article from Ode Magazine — it’s a five-step exercise to try when you meet friends and strangers. Do it discreetly and try to do all the steps with the same person. With your attention geared to the other person, tell yourself:
Step 1: “Just like me, this person is seeking happiness in his/her life.”
Step 2: “Just like me, this person is trying to avoid suffering in his/her life.”
Step 3: “Just like me, this person has known sadness, loneliness and despair.”
Step 4: “Just like me, this person is seeking to fill his/her needs.”
Step 5: “Just like me, this person is learning about life.”
Relief of suffering practice. Once you can empathize with another person, and understand his humanity and suffering, the next step is to want that person to be free from suffering. This is the heart of compassion — actually the definition of it. Try this exercise: Imagine the suffering of a human being you’ve met recently. Now imagine that you are the one going through that suffering. Reflect on how much you would like that suffering to end. Reflect on how happy you would be if another human being desired your suffering to end, and acted upon it. Open your heart to that human being and if you feel even a little that you’d want their suffering to end, reflect on that feeling. That’s the feeling that you want to develop. With constant practice, that feeling can be grown and nurtured.
Act of kindness practice. Now that you’ve gotten good at the 4th practice, take the exercise a step further. Imagine again the suffering of someone you know or met recently. Imagine again that you are that person, and are going through that suffering. Now imagine that another human being would like your suffering to end — perhaps your mother or another loved one. What would you like for that person to do to end your suffering? Now reverse roles: you are the person who desires for the other person’s suffering to end. Imagine that you do something to help ease the suffering, or end it completely. Once you get good at this stage, practice doing something small each day to help end the suffering of others, even in a tiny way. Even a smile, or a kind word, or doing an errand or chore, or just talking about a problem with another person. Practice doing something kind to help ease the suffering of others. When you are good at this, find a way to make it a daily practice, and eventually a throughout-the-day practice.
Those who mistreat us practice. The final stage in these compassion practices is to not only want to ease the suffering of those we love and meet, but even those who mistreat us. When we encounter someone who mistreats us, instead of acting in anger, withdraw. Later, when you are calm and more detached, reflect on that person who mistreated you. Try to imagine the background of that person. Try to imagine what that person was taught as a child. Try to imagine the day or week that person was going through, and what kind of bad things had happened to that person. Try to imagine the mood and state of mind that person was in — the suffering that person must have been going through to mistreat you that way. And understand that their action was not about you, but about what they were going through. Now think some more about the suffering of that poor person, and see if you can imagine trying to stop the suffering of that person. And then reflect that if you mistreated someone, and they acted with kindness and compassion toward you, whether that would make you less likely to mistreat that person the next time, and more likely to be kind to that person. Once you have mastered this practice of reflection, try acting with compassion and understanding the next time a person treats you. Do it in little doses, until you are good at it. Practice makes perfect.
Evening routine. I highly recommend that you take a few minutes before you go to bed to reflect upon your day. Think about the people you met and talked to, and how you treated each other. Think about your goal that you stated this morning, to act with compassion towards others. How well did you do? What could you do better? What did you learn from your experiences today? And if you have time, try one of the above practices and exercises.

These compassionate practices can be done anywhere, any time. At work, at home, on the road, while traveling, while at a store, while at the home of a friend or family member. By sandwiching your day with a morning and evening ritual, you can frame your day properly, in an attitude of trying to practice compassion and develop it within yourself. And with practice, you can begin to do it throughout the day, and throughout your lifetime.

This, above all, with bring happiness to your life and to those around you.

Source : http://zenhabits.net/a-guide-to-cultivat...practices/

I have a fondness for Buddhism and its direct approach to the development of the Green Ray center. I don't see such a direct approach in the Law of One in such ways, but i guess we already had the knowledge.

I am going to start with my own idea on this type of practice by simply asking that each day i will try and be compassionate to everyone i meet, to be of service in a way that is helpful and productive for the benefit of all things and to forgive and let go of ill feelings be them within my self or other self.

Such a simply seed i believe with proper care can develop into a wonderful tree and grow fruit.
(01-19-2014, 03:29 PM)Matt1 Wrote: [ -> ]I have a fondness for Buddhism and its direct approach to the development of the Green Ray center. I don't see such a direct approach in the Law of One in such ways, but i guess we already had the knowledge.

I am going to start with my own idea on this type of practice by simply asking that each day i will try and be compassionate to everyone i meet, to be of service in a way that is helpful and productive for the benefit of all things and to forgive and let go of ill feelings be them within my self or other self.

Hiya Matt1 (I guess the username 'Matt' was already taken, huh? Smile)

yeah compassion is an interesting one, and definitely linked to the green ray centre as you've described above.

I guess from my perspective, the green ray centre encompasses a whole range of qualities and characteristics, 'love' being the most simple one-word description of what its about.

but yes, within that banding, the qualities of: compassion, empathy, mutual understanding, unconditional acceptance, equality of all beings, and a universal linkage show up as well. So to just describe green ray as 'love' would be selling the farm somewhat short; although it is definitely a convenient shorthand to refer to green ray as love, and blue ray as wisdom. And yet there are many deep intricacies and level-upon-level understandings that go with these energy centres.

I guess if you are familiar with buddhism then you are familiar with the term 'metta'? This is the practice of 'loving kindness', and is closely allied with what you described above; but takes a slightly different tack.

in my experience with 'metta', it has a different outcome to the compassion exercises you described above; even though the intent is somewhat the same - to move oneself closer to the other self, and develop a greater acceptance and understanding of both self and other.

with 'metta', and the cultivating of 'loving kindness' to ever larger and more distant circles of 'beings', one actively encounters the resistances to offering that loving kindness. To give an example, it is quite easy to cultivate loving kindness towards one's friends, and even those family members that you get along well with; the reason? well, its because your friends and family members actually like you, and so its so much easier to like them back Smile of course you feel friendly towards them.

but its the cultivation of loving kindness towards people who have done you wrong (in your eyes that is), and people that you don't get along with or don't understand why they do and say the things that they do, it's those people where metta becomes the big thorn in the brain. You may try and try, but 'loving kindness' towards these people just doesn't feel natural or genuine. You can try and try, but it doesn't feel 'real'.

that 'resistance' is a beautiful gem of a catalyst being laid into your lap by an angel with 8 feet wings and a glowing demeanour. Why can't I 'like' this individual, despite an honest attempt to do so? Why does 'loving kindndess' not flow from my heart when I think of that person's name and how they treated me?

some answers: still holding a grudge, that person represents a 'projection' of shadow-qualities that you have denied in yourself, that person represents an aspect that you haven't forgiven in yourself, that person evokes some 'fear' in you.

it doesn't really matter the reason (or, it does actually), but the resistance points to catalyst, and the catalyst points to learning opporunity.

so I've definitely found the 'metta type' practice to be hugely revealing about the state of the self, and if followed through, leads one to greater self-understandings, and when those self-understandings are made explicit, and codified in some way, the resistance drops, and loving-kindness flows automatically to the other individual when the resistance-barrier is recognised for what it is.

the end-result is a compassion and acceptance of the other-self where beforehand there was not.

so it is not the 'loving kindness meditation' which leads to compassion; but rather through working through any resistances to it, and clearing one's own misunderstandings that leads to the unobstructed flow of love, compassion, and acceptance from the green ray energy centre.

one can accept all other beings, all their acts, all their words, no matter how distorted ... this acceptance is possible, although it happens uniquely step-by-step, circumstance by circumstance, and individual by individual. It takes deliberate work, and a most attentive mind, but, I believe, Ra encapsulates the root (fundamental) intent in this passage here:

" Exercise One. This is the most nearly centered and usable within your illusion complex. The moment contains love. That is the lesson/goal of this illusion or density. The exercise is to consciously seek that love in awareness and understanding distortions. The first attempt is the cornerstone. Upon this choosing rests the remainder of the life-experience of an entity. The second seeking of love within themoment begins the addition. The third seeking powers the second, the fourth powering or doubling the third."

take note of the part in bold:

"The exercise is to consciously seek that love in awareness and understanding distortions."

... consciously seek that love in awareness and understanding distortions.

so consciously is involved (application of attention and will, being observant), awareness and understanding distortions (so before there is awareness and understanding, there can be the lack of that, or unawareness and misunderstanding the situation).

love is not as simple or as easy as saying "I love you" to everyone you meet. Or, it is actually. But without clearing the heart centre step by step, that statement "I love you" will tend to be a hollow one, and not heartfelt and totally universal.

love is not just a feeling; it is an understanding.

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apologies if I strayed somewhat from your original post; but I do find love, compassion, and acceptance to be closely linked, and almost inseparable.

namaste