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This is the story of a Doctor, who was beaten up by around 20 or so inner city youth last year because of his appearance, and how he reacted with forgiveness rather than anger. It did not get much play in media, because politically it was hot patatoes (you can imagine if a black doctor was beaten up by 20 white youth, it would be a headline story all over the world). I am posting it here, because I can see some of you brothers/sisters having the same courage as this guy in forgiving his attackers.

http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/hate...-1.1466721

(08-18-2014, 08:40 PM)manniz Wrote: [ -> ]This is the story of a Doctor, who was beaten up by around 20 or so inner city youth last year because of his appearance, and how he reacted with forgiveness rather than anger. It did not get much play in media, because politically it was hot patatoes (you can imagine if a black doctor was beaten up by 20 white youth, it would be a headline story all over the world). I am posting it here, because I can see some of you brothers/sisters having the same courage as this guy in forgiving his attackers.

http://www.nydailynews.com/new-york/hate...-1.1466721

From the news article:

People keep asking me what it feels like to have been assaulted in a hate crime. Honestly, I can't come up with a better response than simply "gratitude."

I'm thankful for a few reasons. If they had attacked me any more violently, I may not be awake right now to tell my story. If they had attacked me even half an hour earlier, they would have harmed my wife and one-year-old son. And if they had attacked me anywhere else, I may not have had bystanders there to save me.

I recall my assailants shouting slurs like "Osama" and "terrorist" before grabbing my beard. My most vivid and unexpected memory actually occurred after I was punched and thrown to the ground. I remember lying on the ground, waiting for their kicks and punches to stop.

Yes, it is true that my assailants fractured my jaw and dislodged some of my teeth while shouting slurs at me. Yet, I understand that it could have been much worse. I am a resident physician in East Harlem, Manhattan, and I've seen the kind of damage people can inflict when inspired by hate. So I consider myself to be extremely fortunate.

People keep asking me if we're going to leave our neighborhood. My wife and I have no intention to move. We have loved spending the last few years in this vibrant and friendly area, and our experiences here have been largely positive. We love serving this community, and we have specifically structured our professional careers around helping our neighbors access health care. My wife just launched City Health Works, a nonprofit venture that helps cultivate health workers and improve the health of the Harlem community. I am also a doctor in this neighborhood and a professor at Columbia University, and my primary focus is to help provide health care for underserved communities.

Even more important to me than my attackers being caught is that they are taught. My tradition teaches me to value justice and accountability, and it also teaches me love, compassion and understanding. It's a tough situation. I care about the people in my local community. I want the streets to be safe for my young son, but at the same time, I am not comfortable with the idea of putting more young teenagers from my neighborhood on the fast track to incarceration. This incident, while unfortunate, can help initiate a local conversation to create greater understanding within the community.

My wife and I plan to raise our son in this same Harlem neighborhood, and I can't help but see the kids who assaulted me as somehow linked to him. In a hostile world, could he too be driven to such action? Could he too feel such hate?

My hope is no. My hope is that our family continues to be a part of this neighborhood, from visiting parks and playgrounds to building relationships through our work. I believe this will bring about positive change that strengthens us through our diversity.

One day my son may choose to continue practicing the Sikh faith as an adult. My hope is that our neighborhood and all neighborhoods across America will support him, no matter his path.

So today, my response is gratitude. Tomorrow my response will be gratitude, as well. To the nurse, to the elderly man and to the other good Samaritans who came to my aid; to my Harlem community, my Columbia community and my Sikh community; and for my role as husband, father, doctor, American, teacher, advocate and neighbor.

This gratitude enables my wife and I to remain optimistic that our son will never have to go through what I just experienced.

Prabhjot Singh is an assistant professor of international and public affairs at Columbia University and a resident in internal medicine at Mount Sinai Hospital.
I was walking down a street in Washington, DC in the 80s when I found myself closely followed by a group of black kids. I turned and said, "Is there a problem?" They answered, "No problem," so I kept walking. They kept following me and then I was hit in the back. I turned to fight and they ran, thank goodness.

I must not be as peace-loving as the professor in the story above, because it still gets my adrenaline pumping when I remember the incident, and it's not gratitude that I feel.
Coincidentally, a friend from my teenage years who was regularly a bully to me recently contacted me speaking to how he felt he mistreated me which coincides with me flying over to where he geographically resides. A handful of years ago, whilst I was still in my partying days, I went to visit him. We went to a party wherein I was brutally beaten, so bad I ended up in the E.R. I blacked out, but later heard he was a part of the group that ''got me''.

I knew I had attracted that experience to me. It was only but a year or so later that I ''tried'' to commit suicide.

I never blamed him nor anyone else. Ultimately, it is with gratitude I ooze unto all experiences, "good" & "bad", as I believe there is naught but good experience, as all experience is leading to the same place. Smile

Thanks for the post. Smile
(08-19-2014, 08:15 AM)βαθμιαίος Wrote: [ -> ]I was walking down a street in Washington, DC in the 80s when I found myself closely followed by a group of black kids. I turned and said, "Is there a problem?" They answered, "No problem," so I kept walking. They kept following me and then I was hit in the back. I turned to fight and they ran, thank goodness.

I must not be as peace-loving as the professor in the story above, because it still gets my adrenaline pumping when I remember the incident, and it's not gratitude that I feel.

I am with you βαθμιαίος. After working for many years in the ghetto, I realized that gratitude, forgiveness don't work there always. Quite often it is seen as a weakness, and brings even more harassment and violence. I can totally see Buddha, jesus coming to the modern day ghettos and being totally useless. Not many will listen to them. I do feel for the older black folks, who are stuck in ghetto. They were always friendly, and were afraid of the youth, gangs, chaos, but were too poor to move outside.

(08-19-2014, 09:45 AM)Star Shine Wrote: [ -> ]Coincidentally, a friend from my teenage years who was regularly a bully to me recently contacted me speaking to how he felt he mistreated me which coincides with me flying over to where he geographically resides. A handful of years ago, whilst I was still in my partying days, I went to visit him. We went to a party wherein I was brutally beaten, so bad I ended up in the E.R. I blacked out, but later heard he was a part of the group that ''got me''.

I knew I had attracted that experience to me. It was only but a year or so later that I ''tried'' to commit suicide.

I never blamed him nor anyone else. Ultimately, it is with gratitude I ooze unto all experiences, "good" & "bad", as I believe there is naught but good experience, as all experience is leading to the same place. Smile

Thanks for the post. Smile

Thanks for your story. Its impressive that you did not blame those who beat you. It is always good to know when gratitude and forgiveness produce results. I guess the trick is to remember that in practical settings, gratitude may not always produce results, but it will always help your own evolution.
& perhaps... those around you, as well.

had I nixed him, the opportunity/experience of reconciliation may not have been possible
(08-19-2014, 11:20 AM)Star Shine Wrote: [ -> ]& perhaps... those around you, as well.

had I nixed him, the opportunity/experience of reconciliation may not have been possible

Yes, so true. Forgiveness can certainly help those around you, who are willing to observe its implications.