(06-02-2013, 04:23 PM)vervex Wrote: If you believe that you making the first step equals receiving pity, perhaps you should re-explore your thoughts and ideas in regards to relationships and frienship, Adonai. In the word relationship, you will find the word "relation": a link that goes both ways, not just one. How about exploring the source of this feeling and healing it? I sense you are shielding (consciously or subconsciously) yourself from others right now, and until it will be resolved, you will only be partially open to relations with others, which results in your current situation.

The problem is usually within one self rather than outside. Start healing from within and others will come to you.

(06-01-2013, 04:12 AM)Adonai One Wrote: I misinterpreted this at first to much embarassment. Now that I understand you, you are correct. Thank you.

(06-01-2013, 03:03 AM)Adonai One Wrote: I never get any random emails, facebook messages, texts or phone calls from anybody. In fact, the last time I did was when I was 12 or 13. Ever since then, my social life went into decline.

(06-01-2013, 03:03 AM)Adonai One Wrote: I never get any random emails, facebook messages, texts or phone calls from anybody. In fact, the last time I did was when I was 12 or 13. Ever since then, my social life went into decline.

98% of the time if I want to talk to people, I have to start the conversation or reply to one that is already ongoing. If I just let my inboxes sit for a month or so, I'll likely find little to nothing. It's like I wasn't even gone

Now, I don't want anyone to start messaging me out of pity. That's not my point. In fact, I'll probably be annoyed by it. This is just a matter of general curiosity. I know many people have this problem.

I just want to know this: Are some people just not generally liked for whatever reason or is there a quantifiable factor here for why some people just aren't talked to or engaged?

(06-12-2013, 09:27 AM)Daydreamin Wrote:

(06-01-2013, 03:03 AM)Adonai One Wrote: I never get any random emails, facebook messages, texts or phone calls from anybody. In fact, the last time I did was when I was 12 or 13. Ever since then, my social life went into decline.

98% of the time if I want to talk to people, I have to start the conversation or reply to one that is already ongoing. If I just let my inboxes sit for a month or so, I'll likely find little to nothing. It's like I wasn't even gone

Now, I don't want anyone to start messaging me out of pity. That's not my point. In fact, I'll probably be annoyed by it. This is just a matter of general curiosity. I know many people have this problem.

I just want to know this: Are some people just not generally liked for whatever reason or is there a quantifiable factor here for why some people just aren't talked to or engaged?

The World is Your Mirror.

How often do you or have you done the same thing you talk about?

(06-02-2013, 11:24 PM)Adonai One Wrote: [redacted]

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(06-02-2013, 04:23 PM)vervex Wrote: If you believe that you making the first step equals receiving pity, perhaps you should re-explore your thoughts and ideas in regards to relationships and frienship, Adonai. In the word relationship, you will find the word "relation": a link that goes both ways, not just one. How about exploring the source of this feeling and healing it? I sense you are shielding (consciously or subconsciously) yourself from others right now, and until it will be resolved, you will only be partially open to relations with others, which results in your current situation.

The problem is usually within one self rather than outside. Start healing from within and others will come to you.

I misinterpreted this at first to much embarassment. Now that I understand you, you are correct. Thank you.

(06-12-2013, 06:09 PM)Guenivere Wrote: I apologize if I came off as insulting or insinuating, I was merely offering my approach, which has not been foolproof but has indeed brought me peace more often than not.

I have nothing else to offer but my all the love and light I can muster, and these not-so-subtle attempts at unsolicited social interaction that you desire, and have therefore enjoyed you for you without pity or fearful love.

Thank you, Adonai!