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Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - EvolvingPhoenix - 04-21-2019
So I was on Youtube, and in the recommended section, I saw this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gep6UGZm6h4
I was curious and decided to watch it and it really brought my attention to the loneliness a lot of people deal with in their everyday lives. Like, on one hand I know this, but I've been so concerned with my own loneliness issues, I haven't thought about all the people out there living really lonely lives, with no family or friends or nothing. I mean, at least I have family, some friends, neighbours, and this forum. Some people have NOBODY and they're old and nobody in society gives them any thought. It's sad.
And then I have also watched videos like these:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dscDPIf0GJI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j1QsSBtcDc0
I feel like I want to be able to DO something about it that can make a big difference and help people going through stuff like this, but I don't know what I could do that would help a lot of people. I could make friends with a lonely old person or two, but how could I do something that helps A LOT of people, you know?
I wanna figure out a way to empower people like this, you know? Help them find a way to start making friends. But right now, I'm not sure how I can even improve my own social life. But it kinda gives me a desire to aim for. I really would like to be able to take this loneliness and pain I've gone through and use it as inspiration to help others going through the same thing. I just don't know what I could do...
But it gets me thinking: Just what kind of thing could help ease this epidemic of loneliness in first world countries?
If somebody started a website or an app to bring lonely people together, would that help? I tried Meetup.com, but it didn't really work out so well for me.
When that old guy in the first video said he would just like to meet some women of his generation at a karaoke bar and have a conversation with them where there was mutual understanding, it made me wonder why it's so hard for him to be able to meet women his age like that and have those kinds of conversations and what can be done to help him accomplish that goal? I wonder what could be done to help these people socialize more and start making friends, you know?
Does anybody have any ideas to brainstorm?
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - AnthroHeart - 04-21-2019
Wanderers are even more prone to loneliness because they don't jive with the vibrations of Earth that well.
I've sort of numbed out to that because of my schizophrenia.
You have pets, don't you? How close are you to them?
I had fallen in love with my spirit guide before. No other person drove me to tears of such love and fondness as him.
Now, I rest easily feeling comforted. But I am fortunate because I love anthros so much that just seeing pictures of them is full satisfaction.
I don't have to try to love anyone or go out of my way to seek validation. I am comforted greatly because I have a strong emotional connection
to my soul family and to Ra.
People will often disappoint you, but I find spiritual beings to be trustworthy. That is if you let the right ones in.
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - Glow - 04-21-2019
(04-21-2019, 05:27 AM)EvolvingPhoenix Wrote: So I was on Youtube, and in the recommended section, I saw this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gep6UGZm6h4
I was curious and decided to watch it and it really brought my attention to the loneliness a lot of people deal with in their everyday lives. Like, on one hand I know this, but I've been so concerned with my own loneliness issues, I haven't thought about all the people out there living really lonely lives, with no family or friends or nothing. I mean, at least I have family, some friends, neighbours, and this forum. Some people have NOBODY and they're old and nobody in society gives them any thought. It's sad.
And then I have also watched videos like these:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dscDPIf0GJI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j1QsSBtcDc0
I feel like I want to be able to DO something about it that can make a big difference and help people going through stuff like this, but I don't know what I could do that would help a lot of people. I could make friends with a lonely old person or two, but how could I do something that helps A LOT of people, you know?
I wanna figure out a way to empower people like this, you know? Help them find a way to start making friends. But right now, I'm not sure how I can even improve my own social life. But it kinda gives me a desire to aim for. I really would like to be able to take this loneliness and pain I've gone through and use it as inspiration to help others going through the same thing. I just don't know what I could do...
But it gets me thinking: Just what kind of thing could help ease this epidemic of loneliness in first world countries?
If somebody started a website or an app to bring lonely people together, would that help? I tried Meetup.com, but it didn't really work out so well for me.
When that old guy in the first video said he would just like to meet some women of his generation at a karaoke bar and have a conversation with them where there was mutual understanding, it made me wonder why it's so hard for him to be able to meet women his age like that and have those kinds of conversations and what can be done to help him accomplish that goal? I wonder what could be done to help these people socialize more and start making friends, you know?
Does anybody have any ideas to brainstorm?
Maybe small steps before big ones. Help the few by visiting or something if you can, work on a potential bigger plan over time as you learn more from the smaller steps.
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - AnthroHeart - 04-21-2019
When I read loneliness, just now it made me think of depression. Would you say you're depressed EP?
![[Image: depression.jpg]](http://www.cnetworksllc.com/images/depression.jpg)
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - EvolvingPhoenix - 04-21-2019
Yeah, probably. Not sure what to do about it though. I feel trapped in my current way of life. I have some feeling like maybe there's something that will change how I feel everyday, but I feel like I don't know what that is.
I guess I'm looking forward to finding work as a teacher's assistant so I can have something to do with my day that allows me to meet people and gives me something meaningful to do that involves interaction with others.
Until then, I'm just trying to heal and work through my own issues, but I feel like I'm stuck in hermit mode.
I feel better about the friendship breakup lately, because I have decided that I honestly believe that if I change myself enough and use the power of holographic creation, I can attune myself to the reality where I get my friend back. But that'll take a lot of work getting there and lately, the name of the game is raising my vibration.
So even though I'm feeling better about the friendship breakup, the fact is I still dunno what to do about being in hermit mode and it feels like I've still got a lot of issues to work on.
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - RitaJC - 04-22-2019
A hermit can be the most effective servant. How does it feel when you imagine lonely people healed from their loneliness? How does it feel to send love and healing to them?
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - EvolvingPhoenix - 04-22-2019
(04-22-2019, 03:26 AM)RitaJC Wrote: A hermit can be the most effective servant. How does it feel when you imagine lonely people healed from their loneliness? How does it feel to send love and healing to them?
I dunno. I don't know how to send them love and healing. After trying your suggestion, I also find I'm having a hard time imagining them all healed from their loneliness. Try as I might, my imagination turns towards the tragic without me meaning for it to. I guess I need to heal my own issues first before I can heal anyone else. But I will try everyday to imagine those people from the first video healed of their loneliness. You think doing so will help them?
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - RitaJC - 04-22-2019
(04-22-2019, 03:51 AM)EvolvingPhoenix Wrote:(04-22-2019, 03:26 AM)RitaJC Wrote: A hermit can be the most effective servant. How does it feel when you imagine lonely people healed from their loneliness? How does it feel to send love and healing to them?
I dunno. I don't know how to send them love and healing. After trying your suggestion, I also find I'm having a hard time imagining them all healed from their loneliness. Try as I might, my imagination turns towards the tragic without me meaning for it to. I guess I need to heal my own issues first before I can heal anyone else. But I will try everyday to imagine those people from the first video healed of their loneliness. You think doing so will help them?
Absolutely! And it will help you.
The best explanation of the process, I have found in these lectures by Neville Goddard
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - RitaJC - 04-22-2019
This video might help as well. To understand for yourself and for the "other self"
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - David_1 - 04-22-2019
Please view RitaJC’s video above.
Things are to be used. People are to be loved.
In confusion, we so often love things and use people!
It seems to me that happiness is a choice.
Happiness begins with contentment.
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - RitaJC - 04-22-2019
Loneliness can be a great catalyst
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - EvolvingPhoenix - 04-22-2019
Thanks guys. I'll watch when I have the time. I gotta eat and help my dad with the fence right now.
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - EvolvingPhoenix - 04-22-2019
So Rita, I watched your videos. They were good. Although I admit to having a hard time accepting loneliness and turning it into solitude. I shall endeavor to be more present as best I can.
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - RitaJC - 04-23-2019
(04-22-2019, 11:43 PM)EvolvingPhoenix Wrote: So Rita, I watched your videos. They were good. Although I admit to having a hard time accepting loneliness and turning it into solitude. I shall endeavor to be more present as best I can.
And I would suggest to be patient and compassionate with the body. Rewiring the energy pathways is a hard job. EFT, Ho'oponopono and other techniques might be well suited to support it.
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - RitaJC - 04-23-2019
I, personally, believe that crisis = not knowing what to do can be the best catalyst and growth stimulator
https://charleseisenstein.org/podcasts/charles-eisenstein-daily-podcast/what-to-do-when-you-dont-know-what-to-do/
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - RitaJC - 04-23-2019
Some great wisdom in this video as well
This is why I never see a conflict between following the breadcrumb trail of excitement and STO: we are naturally wired fro service to the rest of the Creator -> being able to do that creates pleasurable feelings in our emotional guidance system.
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - Aion - 04-23-2019
I did not have this idea before but this thread gave it to me.
You know how there is home-care for elderly and disabled people and such?
What about a non-profit focused on the same idea for purely social purposes and for companionship? Bring the community to you.
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - EvolvingPhoenix - 04-23-2019
Not a bad idea, Aion. I'll have to keep it in mind in the future and hopefully, I'll be able to do something like that some time down the line.
RE: Pondering how to make a difference with the loneliness epidemic - kristina - 05-07-2019
(04-21-2019, 05:27 AM)EvolvingPhoenix Wrote: So I was on Youtube, and in the recommended section, I saw this video:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gep6UGZm6h4
I was curious and decided to watch it and it really brought my attention to the loneliness a lot of people deal with in their everyday lives. Like, on one hand I know this, but I've been so concerned with my own loneliness issues, I haven't thought about all the people out there living really lonely lives, with no family or friends or nothing. I mean, at least I have family, some friends, neighbours, and this forum. Some people have NOBODY and they're old and nobody in society gives them any thought. It's sad.
And then I have also watched videos like these:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dscDPIf0GJI
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j1QsSBtcDc0
I feel like I want to be able to DO something about it that can make a big difference and help people going through stuff like this, but I don't know what I could do that would help a lot of people. I could make friends with a lonely old person or two, but how could I do something that helps A LOT of people, you know?
I wanna figure out a way to empower people like this, you know? Help them find a way to start making friends. But right now, I'm not sure how I can even improve my own social life. But it kinda gives me a desire to aim for. I really would like to be able to take this loneliness and pain I've gone through and use it as inspiration to help others going through the same thing. I just don't know what I could do...
But it gets me thinking: Just what kind of thing could help ease this epidemic of loneliness in first world countries?
If somebody started a website or an app to bring lonely people together, would that help? I tried Meetup.com, but it didn't really work out so well for me.
When that old guy in the first video said he would just like to meet some women of his generation at a karaoke bar and have a conversation with them where there was mutual understanding, it made me wonder why it's so hard for him to be able to meet women his age like that and have those kinds of conversations and what can be done to help him accomplish that goal? I wonder what could be done to help these people socialize more and start making friends, you know?
Does anybody have any ideas to brainstorm?
Gosh EP I know how you feel. I hope the next thing I say doesn't offend you as I truly know what it's like to hurt for others. It's such a blessing to hear how much you care. I love that. It's beautiful. Anyway.....I think..... why do I put myself out for other people? And do it so much almost to the point I get very overwhelmed. BUT! I do it because I identify with the people just as you are describing. I'm not saying to be a doormat and allow people to use you. That's love without applying a little wisdom. I am lonely to an extent. Not the type of lonely where I need a ton of people calling me or following me around but that understand my deepest thoughts, cares and what I honor (like the Law of One). I recognize this need in myself and that's why I do it for my brothers and sisters. I carry a little of their heavy load or love them when they find it hard to love themselves or accept the unacceptable. I do it every chance I get. I help them and they help me. They feel better and I feel better. I would do whatever I could to help another person in need. BUT! I balance that with my own needs. Good luck. Your plight is actually a beautiful thing. We could use more people like you.