Things starting to go wrong for some unascertained reason.

[Parsons]

I think it is a petrifying fear of not doing things right. For instance, I feel I should tell this woman about her husband. I worry that if I don't do it then I am acting in a service to self manner.

IMO, telling her may be polarizing slightly service to self because that would be an attempt to control your environment/another self. Accepting the situation would be polarizing service to others.

Questioner: What is the plan for use of the catalyst of cancer?
Ra: I am Ra. The catalyst, and all catalyst, is designed to offer experience. This experience in your density may be loved and accepted or it may be controlled. These are the two paths. When neither path is chosen the catalyst fails in its design and the entity proceeds until catalyst strikes it which causes it to form a bias towards acceptance and love or separation and control. There is no lack of space/time in which this catalyst may work.

This is just a concept I am suggesting you consider. As another Ra quote suggests, one cannot judge another's polarity. Also, it is (of course) your Choice how you interpret the catalyst.