05-19-2019, 06:16 AM
(This post was last modified: 05-19-2019, 06:19 AM by Louisabell.)
(05-19-2019, 06:05 AM)Cyan Wrote: I would recommend, if i may, reading books on how to talk in hostage situations and in situations where the perpetrator is threathing to harm themselves. it seems there is little desire to embrace the outspoken as a group and to calm them down but rather "verbal fluff" is used to deflect the point which may or may not be true but either way such a talk will not bring the individual to a calm and integrate his energies with the group for best outcome.
All this talk from Both sides about demons and negatives rarely brings a good closure to what is a new, not an old poster like myself, taking things defensively, a few people have tried to point out that he is loved but that has been a most undervalued point in compared to how many people seek to engage him in this ritual of self flagellation.
Perhaps I should point out that such troubles and arguments are part and parcel of life in polarity and we cant seem to find balance without such mirrors, like I said, the kitchen can be hot.
Some would say that this approach is a love over wisdom approach, and it is most commendable.
And yet, sometimes utilising some shock value is useful.
Sometimes it's just hard to not give someone what they so obviously desire.